To feel like having a baby just won't happen for us..

[christmasbaublestree]

Hello,

Apologies if this is in the wrong thread topic. I just don't really know where to turn.

3 months ago, I had a nasty chemical pregnancy (lost a lot of blood, happened whilst at work in public..) it was really traumatising and although deemed a very early loss, it has shaken me beyond belief. 😔

We are still TTC, it's been a morbid 8 months so very early days still, but I just don't think I'm ovulating, since the loss.

I'm currently CD 26 and no sign of ovulation at all, my cycles just seem to be completely shot and I don't know what on earth is happening to me 😩

DP and I decided between ourselves that I will keep my 'fertile window' / ovulation peaks quiet from him as we don't want the added pressure, and I can't bare to tell him we weren't successful. So we have mutually decided this.

I just feel like my body is giving up on me since the chemical 😔

Thank you for any help in advance.

You might want to move to the conception board, but it def doesn’t matter. Maybe just track your cycle for a bit? As if using ovulation sticks, it can be quite easy to miss? Very sorry to hear about your miscarriage. It can just take a long time (sure you know this, but I was shocked by how long it took us and that was still regarded as completely normal.) Will keep fingers crossed for you.

It can definitely take your body a while to settle down again after a miscarriage.

No experience of chemical pregnancies/not a medical professional but I am pregnant now via IVF after a long and torturous journey (which included a miscarriage) so I’m just here to give you a handhold and tell you you’re not alone.
If you feel up to it then perhaps a doctors appointment might be in order to discuss a referral if you think you’re not ovulating. However if you want to wait and see what happens then that’s ok too. Your journey, your rules.
Here if you want to chat 💐

Thank you both. Sorry it's on the wrong board! Yes I think it will take a while for my body to return to normal by the sounds of it! 🥴 x

@Bobblehatwobble congratulations on your pregnancy! I think I might call the doctors and see what they suggest, I just don't seem to get any kind of indication that I am / am about to ovulate. All my OPK's seem to remain faint and don't darken, no EWCM or anything from what I see. Really strange as before the CM I always had a blazing positive OPK 😓 xx

Your body can take some time to get back to normal after a chemical. It can feel like you're trying forever but really 8 months is totally normal.

The conception board will be very helpful to you. There are loads of women in your situation.

Are you temping, that will give you information about if you're ovulating.

www.fertilityfriend.com/

@christmasbaublestree this site is great for tracking your cycles. If you want to do the basics it's free. If you want to sign up for a year of all the bells and whistles i think it's about £20 ?

I used it to track my ovulation with sticks and temping and got preg in the end. It took me 2 years. I have a weird cycle with a short first phase. It's my suspicion that DH has a low sperm count but neither of us ever wanted to 'go into it' as we wouldn't have wanted to go down the medical intervention route for either of us.

I too decided not to keep DH informed of the exact ovulation time as it was just easier if i kept it to myself. It sounds bad - as if the woman is taking all the strain ect - but actually it was easier for me as well as him.

Anyway enough ramble. You're not alone by any means. Best of luck

Have you checked in with your GP? They may be able to test things like progesterogen, which I think is more accurate than over-the-counter ovulation tests. Plus always useful to have them in the loop in case you can use some help further down the line.

I'm sorry it's been such a rough year for you.