The absolute flipping cheek of it!

[FairyAtTheBottomOfTheGarden]

So, I've been divorced 5 years, ExH is still with the OW and I've always been civil to her, almost friendly, which is much more than she deserved.

Anyway, she's told ExH's mum that she's not comfortable spending time with me because we've all known each other for years and she feels left out when we talk about stories from before her time!

Here's a thought love - if you'd have stayed with your own husband instead of jumping into bed with mine maybe you'd have your own stories to tell with your own family!

AIBU to stop being the bigger person and just ignore her now? I know I'm not and even if you tell me I am then I'm not going to waste any more energy on her but I just wanted to rant

Why were you spending time together in the first place?

Seems like an.... 'unusual' setup even before that comment... but maybe I'm missing part of the picture?

@ladybee28

Why were you spending time together in the first place?

Seems like an.... 'unusual' setup even before that comment... but maybe I'm missing part of the picture?

For the sake of the kids... however they're old enough now not to need me to do this any more

I'm wondering who told you this, and why.

@SpongeBobJudgeyPants

I'm wondering who told you this, and why.

The OW told me herself by message! No idea why, don't really care.

What type of situation were you all spending time together? You, the ex and the OW? Other friends or family ?

The southern American phrase "bless her heart" seems appropriate here.

What an absolute muppet, she has the self-awareness of a traffic cone. No you are not being unreasonable at all!

What did you reply back to her, OP?

@MyOwnSummer

What did you reply back to her, OP?

Self awareness of a traffic cone, love it!

I just told her it's time to move on. I've blocked her now, she doesn't deserve any of my time or energy.

I think you're more than justified in blocking her, especially if the kids are old enough for you not to have to deal with her now.

I'd be fighting very hard not to say something like "Oh I'm sorry, if only you two had started shagging at the beginning of our marriage rather than X years into it, I guess you wouldn't have this problem." Obviously you shouldn't, for many reasons, but this complaint of hers does kind of take the biscuit almost beyond the affair. I mean, it's one thing to have an affair (wrong, of course), but it really is something else then to complain that the ex chats about stuff that happened before you came along!

Oh I'm sorry, if only you two had started shagging at the beginning of our marriage rather than X years into it, I guess you wouldn't have this problem

Brilliant response PrincessNutNutRoast almost worth unblocking her for