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Am I being unreasonable or is DP?

35 replies

Mummylifeisgoodish · 06/12/2020 22:11

A bit of background- me and DP are first time parents to a 5mo DD. DP has a tendency to do immature things to get a reaction out of me and one of the things he would often do would be to let go of the pushchair when walking down a hill, let it roll and then run after it and catch it. I repeatedly told him I didn’t find it funny, it was a stupid joke and if it went wrong it could have really bad consequences.

Eventually he stopped doing it and I forgot all about it.

Fast forward to this week and me, DP and DD go out for a walk with DP’s mum and DP’s sister. DP’s mum is pushing the pram and we reach a steep hill. DP’s mum turns to her DD (DP’s sister) and says ‘watch this’ and then let’s go of the pram for a few seconds before grabbing the handle quickly.

At the time I didn’t say anything as nobody got hurt and it’s hard to turn off that urge to be polite at all costs with partner’s parents. But after having the rest of the day to think about I found myself getting more and more wound up by the whole situation.

I told DP that what his mum did had irritated me as I don’t understand in what way it’s supposed to be funny. In DP’s case he was doing it to annoy me on purpose, was his mum doing it for the same reason? Anyway, he got the hump with me and said maybe you should make a list of things my parents can and can’t do with DD just in case you don’t like other normal things that people do?

Am I being unreasonable to assume that chasing after your infant baby in their pram as it rolls down a hill is not a normal fun activity that everyone is doing? I have no problem with people doing whatever they want with their own baby, but when you are in the care of someone else’s baby would you not respect them enough to not behave recklessly?

Yabu- it’s just a bit of fun, everybody does it so lighten up!

OP posts:
Aquamarine1029 · 06/12/2020 22:13

There is absolutely nothing funny about this and I wouldn't let these idiots care for my baby.

Sally2791 · 06/12/2020 22:13

They are completely out of order, it’s not funny at all.

SallySaidHi · 06/12/2020 22:13

How on earth did you end up with such an idiot as a father for your child?

Cherrysoup · 06/12/2020 22:15

Who the fuck voted that yabu? Jesús h, if someone did that to my baby, I’d be fucking screaming at them and they would never be allowed to touch the pram again.

Aquamarine1029 · 06/12/2020 22:16

A baby from Australia was killed several weeks ago when the pram got away from the mum whilst on a steep road. It veered into the street and was hit by a lorry. To think anyone would mess about like this for a "laugh" is shocking.

Doublebubblebubble · 06/12/2020 22:17

I would have lamped her.

Im not a violent person at all but how stupid can you be, and with your own grandchild.

There isnt anything fun about endangering a child for me.

When it comes to grandparents; your baby, your rules.

They might think youre a stick in the mud, let them.

KatieGGGG · 06/12/2020 22:18

There’s absolutely nothing even mildly amusing about that and what a bizarre family.

upsidedownwavylegs · 06/12/2020 22:18

I do do that tbh but only when I’m going uphill, not downhill. I wouldn’t do it with a kid that wasn’t mine though.

BefuddledPerson · 06/12/2020 22:19

This is weird, and stupid. I'd never let them push the pram again.

MaggieFS · 06/12/2020 22:19

Until I had children I might in my more reckless youth have found this funny, but absolutely wouldn't any more. I would be fuming with DH and MIL and would tell them each time.

Doublebubblebubble · 06/12/2020 22:20

Also, dont want to say this but kind of have to. Sounds likr DP has been crying to mummy about you.

No adult woman calls someone out like that, so specifically, without being prompted first.

Conkergame · 06/12/2020 22:21

Wtf?! How is this in any way funny? Would they be amused if she got hurt or are they all quite thick and don’t realise she could easily be hurt? Confused

LividLoves · 06/12/2020 22:21

I get nervous without the pram strap round my hand.

You need to advocate for your child and tell them in no uncertain terms it’s not happening again and it’s not funny.

Doublebubblebubble · 06/12/2020 22:22

Also, OP, SLINGS are the way of the future for you.

CustardCreamm · 06/12/2020 22:23

This is horrendous.

Santaisironingwrappingpaper · 06/12/2020 22:23

Yabu to ever let your dc be around such utter arse holes..

Lindy2 · 06/12/2020 22:25

They wouldn't be pushing a pram with my baby in it ever again. I would have also told them that what they were doing was dangerous and they were risking your baby getting hurt which is totally unacceptable.

Notgoingonholiday · 06/12/2020 22:29

I agree that DP has said something to his mum, that's too strange a coincidence. What a hilarious familyHmm

AlwaysCheddar · 06/12/2020 22:30

Are you married to a bunch of twats?

JamieLeeCurtains · 06/12/2020 22:32

@Doublebubblebubble

Also, dont want to say this but kind of have to. Sounds likr DP has been crying to mummy about you.

No adult woman calls someone out like that, so specifically, without being prompted first.

I agree this is entirely possible.

Are they all a bit not-very-bright and arsey in other ways, @OP?

Cindie943811A · 06/12/2020 22:33

And what if she’d tripped and gone flat on her face and the prom had got away?
It must be by more good luck than good management that her children survived unharmed if she hasn’t the sense to anticipate dangerous situations

Mummylifeisgoodish · 06/12/2020 22:35

I feel so relieved that I am being completely rational to be angered by this. Being a first time mum I do worry and I always wear the wrist strap when pushing the pram, and the fact a woman of her age and maturity was doing it too made me wonder if I was just being over precaution.

To the PP who mentioned wearing a carrier, you’re absolutely right. This is what I’m going to have to start doing from now on.

OP posts:
buddy79 · 06/12/2020 22:37

Yanbu. Just reading your post made me really tense. It’s just taking a risk that doesn’t need to be taken with a tiny baby. You feelings are totally valid.

user183526374 · 06/12/2020 22:39

I have no problem with people doing whatever they want with their own baby

Er, really? I do. But anyway, no, putting a child at risk for a "joke" is not normal or acceptable.

katy1213 · 06/12/2020 22:45

What a family of morons. Are you sure you want to expand this gene pool any further?

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