AIBU - to divorce due to weed

[Sunnyside91]

Am I being unreasonable to want a divorce stemming from DS weed habit?
8 years relationship, one DC, average life, he’s not terrible but they way he makes me feel when I see him stoned is what’s more concerning. I almost completely loathe him, pure disgust, I can’t go on feeling this way. I don’t know how to divorce without the fucking guilt that “I” ruined this family! I just want better for myself and my son, is that not enough?

On reflection I have been.a bit insensitive OP asking about my situation. I will start my own thread. Best of luck with everything, God bless

@Wales34 no don't be sorry. Just please take note of the responses I am now 6 years down the line with my son. It will not get any better. What happens when your DH goes to drop off little one high? Or when it's an important meeting.. people will see it. Trust me.... I am telling you, you have to sort this out. I feel like a total hypocrite but I think looking back it would have been better to leave when my DC was younger.

@Itsallpointless yes, this is the same story line as mine. Empty promises. Nothing changes. Apart from my feelings and respect for him. Then he wonders why I won't sleep with him!

@TheGreatSloth yes I also resonate with your response, many an argument has stemmed from it. Thrown items, rage, ups and downs. I just feel so weak at the moment.. he's done a fabulous job of making me feel incredibly guilty for wanting better.

@Sunnyside91 I'll tell you this though, once I'd made my mind up, it still took years to get him out, but I had detached our lives (what little there was) and I was living a single life, much to his disdain. However, that still didn't bring about change, he was so addicted (by then to far harder stuff) there was no way back.

Feel free to PM me if I can be of any help/support/understanding

Sorry I didn't reply sooner, how are you OP? In answer to your question about how I am now, I'm married got a lovely child and my life is so, so different, I pay my bills, don't walk on eggshells don't smell that disgusting smell all the time and spend my life covering up for my ex. Dont get me wrong it was hard in the first place with the guilt tripping etc but the freedom is absolutely amazing. Please do this for you and your DC you deserve so much more and there is a lovely new life out there for you ❤

You can divorce him for any reason you want and the weed is clearly ruining your relationship and will impact his relationship with his kids. I personally am fairly relaxed about weed but if he has a problem with it you are perfectly reasonable to want to get away from it. Don't waste years waiting for him to give it up.