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To send baby to nursery with cold

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Bathbubbles · 06/12/2020 21:04

I'm back at work and my 8 month old goes to nursery once a week. When he came home last Thurs he had a terrible night was coughing boiling temp snooting sneezing etc. He's still not quite right but better. He still needs calpol 2-3 times a day as he still has 3-4 coughing episodes a day, snotty nose and general aches and is not himself wanting cuddles teary etc. AIBU to send him to nursery or should I take carers leave from work? I feel like he probably needs to be at home but when I've read up it says you only need to keep them off if they have a temp. I a) don't want the nursery to frown at me for sending a snotty coughy baby to nursery and b) don't want my work to think I'm taking the mick it's just a cold send him to nursery you don't need the day off.
Any thoughts please? First time mum wwyd

OP posts:
Rainbowb · 06/12/2020 21:13

He’s 8 months old and he’s poorly. He needs you. End of.

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Bathbubbles · 06/12/2020 21:13

@Amanduh I probably should of mentioned he is teething aswell so it's hard to judge but I do think your right my gut tells me if he's stil like this on Thursday don't send him. It just means they don't have much notice.

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Pippa12 · 06/12/2020 21:14

YABU... he has Covid symptoms. He has had contact with children at nursery not just you and your husband. You need to get a test, cough/temp??? Meant in the best possible way but have you been living under a rock for the past 10 months???

bobbiester · 06/12/2020 21:15

"boiling temp" OR "cough" = get COVID test.

Simple as that. Whole family to isolate until you get the results.

That is what you are supposed to do. Can't believe you both work in healthcare and don't know this.

Doesn't matter that you are doing those quick lateral flow tests at home.

Direwolfwrangler · 06/12/2020 21:16

Your nursery will most likely refuse to take your child, or will call you to collect during the day. It’s completely unfair to other parents to send a child that unwell to nursery.
It’s your choice not to get your baby tested but you should still follow the isolation guidelines.

flaviaritt · 06/12/2020 21:16

No the nursery won't report anyone to the police for not getting a covid test confused

How do you know that? The OP is required by law to self-isolate with her family as someone in her household has symptoms. If she takes her child to nursery she isn’t doing that. I’m not saying they should report her, but they would be within their rights.

bobbiester · 06/12/2020 21:16

www.gov.uk/get-coronavirus-test

"If you’re getting a test because you have symptoms, you and anyone you live with must self-isolate until you get your result."

"You" in this case is your baby.

thetinselbadge · 06/12/2020 21:17

I'd honestly be surprised if they'd have him with Covid symptoms and no test.

With a negative test I'd send him if he's ok in himself with no temp. Doesn't sound like he's well enough to be honest.

BakedBeeeen · 06/12/2020 21:19

He’s not well enough to go. They won’t be able to dedicate 1 member of staff to him all day, and it’s not fair on him. Completely different if he just had a snotty nose.

mooncakes · 06/12/2020 21:19

[quote Bathbubbles]@Amanduh I probably should of mentioned he is teething aswell so it's hard to judge but I do think your right my gut tells me if he's stil like this on Thursday don't send him. It just means they don't have much notice.[/quote]
If you don't get him tested, you will have to keep him home for 2 weeks.

Thefaceofboe · 06/12/2020 21:20

My nursery wouldn’t allow him in if he hasn’t had a covid test, regardless of if you have tested negative.

LajesticVantrashell · 06/12/2020 21:21

Did you consider, at any point, that he was displaying two of the three most common criteria for COVID?!

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Bathbubbles · 06/12/2020 21:23

His first day at nursery was Thursday and his temp broke that night about 11. Spiked again say 3am and no more temps since. I wouldn't describe it as a continuous cough nor is it for long periods but I will covid test him to be on the safe side

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Changechangychange · 06/12/2020 21:24

You’ll need a negative covid swab if nursery know he’s been ill.

Ours would call you back to collect if they are too sick to take part in activities, temperature or not. So no, I wouldn’t drop DS off in that state. But other nurseries may be less hard-arse about it, so worth checking with them.

mooncakes · 06/12/2020 21:24

@Bathbubbles

His first day at nursery was Thursday and his temp broke that night about 11. Spiked again say 3am and no more temps since. I wouldn't describe it as a continuous cough nor is it for long periods but I will covid test him to be on the safe side
Three coughing episodes in 24 hours is a continuous cough.
Whyistheteacold · 06/12/2020 21:24

Keep him off, I doubt the other parents will be very impressed with your DS spreading germs and making their babies poorly 🙄 whether or not the symptoms are of covid is irrelevant.

Dinocan · 06/12/2020 21:27

He still needs calpol 2-3 times a day as he still has 3-4 coughing episodes a day, snotty nose and general aches and is not himself wanting cuddles teary etc.

Here’s your answer.

OoohTheStatsDontLie · 06/12/2020 21:28

Havent RTFT. In ky opinion it depends how he is in himself. A bit grouchy but otherwise ok - eating and sleeping ok and fine in himself I'd send him in. Needing picked up or held all the time, not eating, crying more than normal etc then I'd keep him home, not because nursery would mind but because it's not the right thing for him to be in nursery

Gigheimer · 06/12/2020 21:28

Aren’t you and your DH also supposed to be isolating as well??

HCP - assuming working with vulnerable patients...

OverTheRubicon · 06/12/2020 21:30

@jgjgjgjgjg

Are you for real? You have a baby with a cough and it hasn't occurred to you that he needs to tested for Covid?? Of course you can't send him to nursery. Or anywhere else. He needs to be isolated and tested ASAP.
This. And you work in healthcare??!
ForeverBubblegum · 06/12/2020 21:30

I sent DD in at the tail end of a cold, but that was after a negative covid test, and she was past the feeling ill stage and just had the residue snotty noise. However, if you're DS's ill enough to need calpol, he's too I'll to go in (regardlessof covid, I'd have said the same last year). Your going to need to keep him off

Reindeermayhem · 06/12/2020 21:31

Why not get a test tomorrow.
Concerning if your or partner being into work if a baby has a boiling temperature, needing cal pol still and a cough.

If a negative test you can still keep him off but can tell work you are not isolating.

HeeHawSeeSaw · 06/12/2020 21:33

If he is just coughing and snotty and definitely doesn't have covid (has a nagative covid result) then I would send him in. However, if he still needs Calpol I wouldnt send him in as it doesn't sound like he is well enough. Lots of cuddles in the warmth of his home is what he needs.

FromThe70s · 06/12/2020 21:33

You work in healthcare yet you actually needed to ask this?! Confused

PleaseLetIanBeDead · 06/12/2020 21:34

You test your 9 month old weekly for covid???

He is been given calpol 3 times a day, how do you know he hasnt got a temperature?

You say you work in Healthcare, you say he hasnt got a temperature but you are given him calpol 3 times a day? So he is obviously very unwell, otherwise why would you be giving calpol so often?

The nursery has a 1:3 ratio and you want to send your unwell baby there?

The mind boggles !!!!! Biscuit