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AIBU?

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Dh thinks I am over reacting, what do you think? Need some other opinions!

19 replies

PintaBlood · 21/10/2007 14:42

We went out last night with anothr couple.

The establishment we went to have a bring your own bottle policy. I was driving [pre arrangment, I didn't mind!]

Dh took a bottle of wine with him, he usually drinks beer but didn't want to carry a 6 pack in to a nice place

Anyway, the couple we were with shared a bottle of red whilst dh drank the whole bottle he had brought with him, himself.

Then we went into the bar of a nearby hotel where they had entertainment. I fancied a coffee so asked for one. Dh started making fun of me for asking for a coffee... Anyway, the music wasn't good so we decided we would go home soon... dh continued buying the other man beers, they must have had about 6 more each by the time friend and I managed to get them to leave. Friend had stopped drinking after we left the eating place.

We decided that seeing as it was still early and the other couple had a sitter all night (a parent) they decided to come home to ours for an hour or so so I could let my sitter go home. As soon as we were home dh started pouring more drink, spirits, for himself and friends dh. Friends dh didn't want anymore so had pints of water. Me and friend had tea. We were all joking and laughing, I was tired so said I'd go and pull on my pyjama bottoms as I had a sore stomach... it would be Ok to leave them home wearing those as they don't live that far away, but too far to walk.

Anyway, we chatted and dh started becoming obsessed with getting friend a book he had read.. he wrecked the bloody house looking for a book! He continued talking about it, on and on and on despite my looks and both our friends telling him the conversation had moved on!

It was almost 2.30 when my friend said they had better get a move on, so I stood up to get car keys and dh pulled my pyjama bottoms down

I was mortified. Friend and her dh kind of laughed and chided dh saying he was naughty etc.. but I wanted to stab him. Then he hit his glass with his arm and spilled his booze all over the floor.. blamed friend's dh who was nowhere near him

When I came home from leaving friends home he was asleep on the sofa. He then got up, hand over mouth and was sick all over the kitchen floor. I made him clean it up and went to bed.

He came to bed at 5am. I got up with the kids at 10am to see sick in the kitchen sink.

Dh is still in bed now, a very sorry boy.. he couldn't understand last night or this morning why I was cross with him...

In fairness, he never usually drinks as much as what he did and I do think he shouldn't have had the bottle of wine etc. He does not have a drink problem, the only problem is he drank too much last night and was a complete and total wanker dickhead arsehole and shit head!!

AIBU to be annoyed at him?????????

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PintaBlood · 21/10/2007 14:43

OMG that's so long... sorry!!

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WideWebWitch · 21/10/2007 14:46

I'd be cross and make him grovel, mainly for the pyjama pulling down, I would NOT have been amused at that but other than that, it's not the end of the world and it's not like he does it often, so I wouldn't be too hard on him. God, I've talked crap when pissed and fallen asleep on the sofa, I don't think it's that bad.

colditz · 21/10/2007 14:46

YANBU. Not at all. I hope he has cleared up!

Lulumama · 21/10/2007 14:47

of course you are not being unreasonable ! he gets ratarsed, and pulls your trousers down in front of your guests , trashes the house, pukes in the sink and behaves like a knob !

why do you think he drank so much last night?

he owes you big time

morningpaper · 21/10/2007 14:49

Blimey that was long

of course YANBU, he is a pig

You should have said "We went out and DH got really drunk and threw up in the kitchen sink, AND didn't clean it up"

If it was me I would either give him an absolutely huge bollocking and make sure that HE was the designated driver FOREVER in the future, or take the kids out for the day with a notice for him to clean the fcking sink.

Good luck!

kindersurprise · 21/10/2007 14:51

no you are not being unreasonable, and he should apologise to you and to your guests. What an idiot!

stressteddy · 21/10/2007 14:51

Not being unreasonable at all.
By the way, even with name change he may know it's you - there can't be many men who pulled their wife's pj's down in front of friends last night!!!
Love to you
Make him give you some time off so you can chill and relax. Not today as he'll be worse than useless with a hangover! Another time when you need some "you time"
XX

PintaBlood · 21/10/2007 14:53

It's more the trouser pulling down thing & the not shutting up when told about 6 million times.. he was talking about the davinci code and the other, Angels and demons books.

I have no idea why he drank so much and I know he doesn't do it all the time.. but I hate it

My dad drank every weekend in life and came home falling down drunk so I guess when I married dh I was glad he wasn't a big drinker.

The friend and her dh are very very good friends, in fact she is related to me so I have known her all my life and she and her dh were bestman and bridesmaid on our wedding, so it's not the fact he talked poo, more the fact he wouldn't shut up and kept going on and on... he started talking about not believing in god at one point and they are devout catholics.

He did clear up, but I had to wash the sink out this morning, I needed it and he's still not up.

The kids are being very very good, but he can lie there all day for all I care!

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PintaBlood · 21/10/2007 14:54

stressteddy I hadn't even thought of that, but tbh I doubt if he would even think of trying to find a post about last night.. more really to pretect myself I name changed

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madamez · 21/10/2007 15:04

Wee-eeell - just about everyone occasionally acts like a complete arse after too much booze. And it's certainly true that, for some people, wine gets them much more pissed than beer does - so he would have got pissed more quickly than he expected and then starting knobbing about.

However, he owes you a huge apology and several favours (ie several goes in a row of being the designated driver). ANd I agree with whoever said, go out with the DC and lavea note telling him to clear up all the sick. ANd clean the house.
Make him grovel but then draw a line under it, as long as it doesn't happen again.

WanderingTrolley · 21/10/2007 15:11

I wouldn't be overly annoyed about the vast amount he drank, the obsessive book search or the sick, tbh.

But if my dp had pulled my trousers down in front of anyone I would have had to blast him back to Planet Twat with his arse of fire, I'm afraid.

PintaBlood · 21/10/2007 15:16

Well, I did have nice knickers on....

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morningpaper · 21/10/2007 15:22

now you are just showing off!

I don't think it is very clever to get so drunk that he was a complete arse

Mind you, if your friends stayed until 2.30 they can't have thought he was being THAT bad, so that's relief

he was still a complete pig though and deffo ows you lots of apologies

morningpaper · 21/10/2007 15:22

should have put a after the showing off

talulasmum · 21/10/2007 15:50

completly right to be annoyed.

you poor thing.

bossybritches · 21/10/2007 16:05

YANBU but just enjoy the moral highground & brownie points for a while!

FromGirders · 21/10/2007 16:28

At least you had knickers on! Until you mentioned them, I'd assumed you didn't

PintaBlood · 21/10/2007 21:10

lol girders!

He got out of bed at 4.30 after I poured a cup of water over him

He then said sorry, asked me what exactly it was that made me angry! I told him the trouser pulling incident and he was suitably embarrassed and apologised to me.

He then made the dinner. He said he is never drinking wine ever again

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Hekate · 21/10/2007 21:41

Drunk people are SO annoying. I can't stand to be around my (otherwise lovely) husband when he's had a few. I want to stab him and bury his body in the back garden.

Sympathy to you. I hope you made lots of noise and took full advantage of his hangover hell!

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