How often do you see your friends ?

[Xtfc123]

As in your close friends
I appreciate it's different once you have children so will target this more at people who either don't have children or whose children are independent etc.
Or maybe your life pre-children.

My closest friend at least once a week. Two dog walking friends that I meet up with all together twice a week. Another friend I walk with usually once a week. Dog walking definitely keeps things frequent.

Many other mates I see very often and some less so. But and it’s a big but, I don’t work and seeing my friends gives shape to my week. I put a lot of effort into it and never, ever think, no, she doesn’t text me so I won’t text her. I also put a lot of effort into remembering the details of their lives and show genuine interest in their lives. And whilst we all moan I do try hard to no be a moaner (I have a chronic and painful condition) and be cheerful.

I moved far away from my friend's a few years ago but pre covid maybe 3times a year. I have made new friends here but they mainly work friends so everyday at work. But socially outside work maybe once a month. That's fine for me I'm generally happy not going out.

Similar to @Recruit2020. A group of 7 of us have a WhatsApp group that is used daily. Will meet up with one or more of them at least once a week. We are in tier 3 so can only meet up one on one at the mo, bit when that is eased we will meet up more.
We all have kids, some work, some don't.

I thought rule of 6 applied to tier 3?

It does but it includes children. We are all either bringing one or two along, so realistically can only meet with one other friend.

Just makes me realise how lonely I am, partner lives ages away too.

Depends where you live in my experience. Most of my best friends are at least an hour on the train away (we’ve scattered post university) so maybe once a month but sometimes it can be a year and we just pick up where we stopped. Which is perfect (and even better now many of us have smallish DC). I wouldn’t dream of calling or messaging on a daily basis...everyone’s far too busy with their own lives.

This year? I've gone out for one meal with friends. I can't remember pre Covid 😂 usually I go out for a meal at least once a month, night out 3/4 times a year, out for coffee maybe most weeks. Most of my friends are mum Fridays who I see everyday or every week.

This year not kept in as much contact as usual but all there for each other when needed.

@Xtfc123 I’m sorry you’re lonely. Have you take up hobby’s to meet new people? I don’t just rely on one main group. I see different friends each week, so if I only had one group it would only be monthly.

I have joined a gym and pre Covid I went to Parkrun, it's just difficult at the moment. I do know others but they all seem quite content to only see me every couple of/few months sadly.

Every few months or so, talk probably weekly but hard to find time to meet up in person.

Main group one big day date on average once every two months. One on one catch ups, once a month.

I see friends all the time. At least a couple of times a week. That said my best friend lives in a different country and I see her once a year at best. But we speak at least 3 times a week, text often and I have never felt uninvolved in her life because of the physical distance between us. That said, I don’t know her husband or kids that weel and that definitely a distance thing.

Not very often - one lives on the other side of the world and the other on the other side of the country.

At least once a week, sometimes twice. Also go away on long weekend trips three times a year. Only met these friends 3 years ago when I joined a sporting club (which I joined specifically to meet new people).

You talk about parkrun OP, have you thought about joining a running club? I've seen them throughout lockdown.. obv only one at a time, up to 3/5 times weekly and that has been a godsend to me. My friends are all an hour plus away and usually pre covid meet them all every couple months, which means usually I'd be seeing one friend or family/couple about 2/3 weekends a month.

@xtfc123 the gym (especially classes when permitted) are a great way to make friends. I am lucky to have had some of my friends over 25 years but have made friends in various work roles over the last 10 years I still meet occassionally for drinks. I think people forget friendships are relationships and you do have to work at them in a sense. If we relied on X person in our friends to sort anything we would see each other every 3 years for 20 minutes. I have a lovely friend I made through work 3 years ago, I have since moved roles but always touch base with a text and pre covid let her know I was in for a brew or a wine. We are complete opposites on paper we do not 'fit' we have NOTHING in common but actually we get on well - i say strike up conversation with a variety of people you have nothing to lose and the friends you do have drop them a line and as always plenty of ladies on here to chat too x