To not want to hear about their films and books?

[Uncomfortablynumbed]

I probably ABU but it’s getting right on my tits!

Chatting to a couple of guys at the moment. I’ve been on a few dates with one of them and only met up with other guy once. We’re in a tier 3 area so no meeting up with either at the moment.

Both guys keep telling me all about which books they are reading/films they are watching and it’s starting to really annoy me. I’m a single mum to two small DC. Much as I love a good film/book I have zero time for either these days (and I’ve told them both as much) For example last night one guy was telling me about the film he was currently watching. Then the other guy started telling me about the book he’d just picked up (after finishing watching a film obviously)

I feel like telling them both to please stfu about themselves and their own interests. Especially ones that just make me feel jealous because it’s a world I no longer inhabit!

I think I need to stop dating don’t I?

Ah fair enough OP, in that case I'm not surprised you never get to read!

If you’ve time to be on Mn and be dating two guys then you’ve time to read

If it's not fun, stop talking to them/dating.

Maybe spend your time watching films instead 😂

Why not go out with your friends when your parents babysit?

I get annoyed I 'don't have time' to xyz.

I blame you lot... 🤣🤣

MN is like reading a book with live feedback- what's not to love? What I need though is an audio version, so I can 'do stuff' at the same time!!

Can you imagine an audio version of Mn??

“Why do you not pronounce your “r”s? It’s really annoying”

“Can you quieten your child down please?”
“Err, that’s my husband”

@WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants

I get annoyed I 'don't have time' to xyz.

I blame you lot... 🤣🤣

MN is like reading a book with live feedback- what's not to love? What I need though is an audio version, so I can 'do stuff' at the same time!!

This is so true! It’s an interactive magazine. I can no longer just watch a tv programme - I have to find the accompanying mn thread!

[quote Uncomfortablynumbed]@Rummikub Actually love the thought of their faces when you told them you’re not into films or music

Communication over message is such a minefield isn’t it? Did you ever end up meeting anyone worth the hassle?[/quote]
Like you I wasn’t interested in a relationship. I just wanted to have something to do on a Saturday night. It was quite freeing to not be seeking a relationship. It took the anxiety away.
I did meet someone- he had good chat and I found myself ignoring the other guys in order to chat to him. We never ran out of conversation.
He does talk to me about films and music (And cars) but he also discuss things I am interested in too. I knew he liked me as he took the time to find out about things that interested me.

You need to be frank.
“OK, enough about the film/book now let’s talk about something interesting. Me”
That should do.

Wow you sound delightful 😂 what else would you like them to say? Constantly ask about you and what you've done, eaten, looked at?

Arh well, the one sided conversations are a completely separate issue. Those people who just love their own voices are always boring, whatever their hobbies are!

If I dated someone who wasn't interested in films or books it wouldn't get past the second date.

God I’d rather talk about books, films and music than some of the online convos I’ve had that go like this -

Me - So how was your day, what did you get up to?

Him - not much

Me -

Him -

Me - so what’s for dinner

Him - dunno

Me - expires from boredom

Well yes. Think that’s why they’re good safe topics. But not if that’s all they talk about and don’t take an interest in you.

What would you like to chat about op?

Yeah, you should introduce some interesting topics OP.