To keep baby downstairs?

[MrsMyreton]

Goady title, apologies.

DD2 is eleven weeks and of course sleeps in our room (and will do until at least six months). She generally sleeps from 18:30 until 05:00 (sometimes even 07:00). We go to bed about 21:30, 22:00 at the latest.

I'm curious as to what everyone does with baby between 19:00 and 22:00... at the moment DD2 just sleeps soundly on us downstairs and I feel guilty she's still having to listen to tv rabble etc. Do you just go to bed with baby in the early evening? Or keep them downstairs??

With DD1 I went to bed when she did, really early... she was a terrible sleeper so DD2 is a real treat!!

Mine stayed downstairs and I put them in the carrycot bit of the travel system if they fell asleep.

At that age we had her downstairs in the Moses basket with us, then we carried the basket upstairs when we went.

I moved DS upstairs for that evening period before 6 months. Probably wasn’t as early as 11 weeks but I’d say around the 4 month mark if I had to guess.

If you’re happy and it’s working for you then carry on as you are. You might find it’s the tv noise and being on you that’s keeping her so sound asleep! I did the same with my son but as he was my third I did start to take him up at around 12 weeks as I was craving some alone time by then.

I think we used to put her upstairs but she was a bit older more like 16 weeks when she started going to sleep at 7 pm. Perhaps that is not following the correct advice though? She didn't sleep alone all night, I would join her by 9 pm ish

I used to sit in our room with dd2 and I'd go in and out for a snack or a drink etc maybe even load the dishwasher but no more than 5-10 minutes. I thought I'd try the whole getting into a routine early, see if it made any difference to her sleep compared to dd1. If anyone's interested the result of my scientific survey was fuck all difference

Babies should not be left alone before 6 months, they use your breathing to regulate their own. Keep baby down stairs with you until you go up.

We kept her downstairs with us till she was about 7 months and settled into her own routine for bedtime sleep. She’d feed or sleep on one of us. It was a bloody brilliant time in our lives. She was the snuggliest, cuddliest, most gorgeous bundle of chub and I don’t regret a minute of holding her while she slept or watching her in her little box on the floor by my side.

Thanks everyone!

Fear not @Pleasegodgotosleep if you read the OP I've asked if people go to bed early with baby, or keep baby downstairs with them. Well aware of how their breathing is regulated! DD2 will not be left to sleep alone until 6 months at earliest.

DD is 14 weeks and we keep her downstairs until I go up at about 10. I think the TV and light are not helping so the TV is on v. low with subtitles turned on and we have just one lamp on. She's in a snuzpod and we bring the top part downstairs so we don't have to disturb her when going up. I spent one night upstairs with her from 7 but it made no difference to her sleep ( she's a terror to get to sleep initially).

We kept DD downstairs, but she wouldn’t be sound asleep till then, she’d sleep a bit/ wake a bit - only ever sleeping on one of us though! She’d go down for a longer stretch from about 10.30/11pm at that age, so we’d just go to bed with her then, then she just gradually started bringing that time earlier. She’s 4 months now and tends to want bedtime around 8 so I just come to bed with her then.

I kept my baby in the lounge room with me. Don't feel guilty about your DD listening to the TV. I doubt they notice at all. I never worried about making noise (e.g. tv on / vacuuming etc) while the baby was sleeping - best advice I was ever given was not to insist everything be silent simply because baby was asleep. Better that, from the beginning, they hear usual household noises like people chatting, cleaning, radio / tv etc.

Mine always stayed with me. I think the rabble is beneficial on getting them to learn to sleep through noises. Both dd's would sleep through a bomb going off!

Yep agree, downstairs in Moses basket. Don't feel guilty they're with you and happy

Always kept baby with me. They shouldn't be left alone before 6 months.

With the third I put him upstairs with the movement monitor on as he was very overstimulated and needed dark and quiet
The other two just stayed down with us

Always kept baby with me until I was ready to go up. We had a travel cor downstairs. I think it’s good,for,them to sleep with tv and other noise. My dc can now sleep through anything. I can even hoover their room while they’re asleep and they won’t wake up!

With my youngest 3 I decided at 5 weeks they should all sleep upstairs as it was quiet and gave me a bit if an evening. So just did it. Bath, massage, book, songs, last feed, another song or 3, mobile (moving one) leave awake in cot. Worked every child much to our suprise!

They all leant to sleep through (7pm, dream feed at 10pm awake at 7am) at a very young age (9 weeks, 8 weeks, 6 weeks). Best decision for me!

I think we started to settle upstairs at about 6/7 weeks with both

We ended up putting DD into her own room at 3 months, only because she slept through and us coming up to bed on the creaky floorboards in our room would disturb her.

But before that I think we used to keep her downstairs with us, although I’m a early bed-timer anyway so was happy to go lie in bed with her next to me

Upstairs in their own room with monitor on !