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To feel pressured into Christmas activities

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User56770987 · 05/12/2020 13:51

School, PTA, all the kids activities are bending over backwards to give them Christmas stuff to do. It all has to be covid friendly of course so zoom based and family based imdividual based stuff that needs filmed and up loaded on line.
Singing, dancing, running,.making craft.
My kids aren't bothered so it's just a big hassel, involves buying tat, nagging kids to join in, makes a mess and I end up doing it on my own.

I work in a fairly stressful clinical job and I want my time off to be up to me. I do plenty with my kids that they enjoy.

What's the point of none of us enjoy it? It's also the assumption that we want to do it and pressure- constant reminders by email/WhatsApp groups. It's driving me mad. I need to chill out at my weekends.

I feel if I don't join in I look mean, ungrateful, bad parent and lacking in community spirit. I am exhausted though and sort of wish everyone would just piss so I could enjoy family time in the way we choose to. Anyone else feel like this or am I going crazy?!

I'm non covid times we do tree, decorations, a low key santa visit at local shops, a day out in town to see the lights,markets and have dinner out. It's enough. I feel like this year people are trying to compensate for all the huge events and activities that they normally do.

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User56770987 · 05/12/2020 13:52

*piss off

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SpnBaby1967 · 05/12/2020 13:59

I've never been big on organised fun for the sake of it stuff, the whole "Making Memories" brigade makes me want to boak.

So this year having all this extra attempt at festivities virtually is just so much worse. BUT I am so forever grateful that our amazing Primary School is still trying to make the Christmas term magical for the kids in whatever way they can.

nosswith · 05/12/2020 14:07

As so many other things have been cancelled I think Christmas has been hyped up. More than usual.

farawayplanet · 05/12/2020 14:17

What would happen if you just kept a low profile and didn't do it? Don't log into the activities.

You could send a note to the teacher explaining why you can't facilitate this stuff.

I hate enforced fun, it's just yet more crap to manage.

User56770987 · 05/12/2020 15:36

I think I'm going to let myself off the hook with most of it. I'm happy to give a donation to PTA etc but I just don't have the energy or headspace for doing everything.

I agree I'm grateful that the school are making it fun for the kids and they are still getting to do lots of Christmas stuff at school.

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RednaxelasBaubles · 05/12/2020 15:37

Just don't do it.

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