to think that when i a diciplining dd nobody else would interfere

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i as so sick fed up of people namely dh and mum thinking its a good idea if im giving dd into trouble the speak over me saying what i just said. mum also threatens dd with a smack and i hate it but she just says it never did u any harm. i dont want dd being smacked cos i think its wrong for her to think thats how u deal with people i.e dont do what i say and im gonna hit u

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yip hows things with u

She is your child and if you don't want people to hit her (why do people think violence teaches children something !?!), they should respect that and if they don't...don't leave her alone with them (tougher when one of the people is your DH)

My Mum does that with my nephew, my dd is still too young. My sister lost it one day and screamed at her saying how wrong she thought she was. It worked.

dh wouldnt dare smack. its when i say dd dont do that he will shout dd get away from tere. there is no need ive already told her she doesnt need to be told by 2 people at the same time

It's probably his way of being supportive but it does undermine you a bit. It's like he doesn't think your disapline was good enough.

Have you tried talking to him about it?

yeah but he still does it. every1 does its like they thin i am incabable of bringing up dd without all of them.

That sounds really horrible for you, there's definately a lack of respect. I don't know what you can do other than be firm with him.

My dh also has trouble listening to what I say, not to this extent but it can be very annoying. When he does something I ask him not to do, I tell him twice, then I start to do things he hates. It's little things, like when he puts my bra's in the tumble dryer, I'll tumble dry his favourite t-shirt on a high heat and shrink it. Or slightly burn his dinner when he's late home. When he asks I just say that if he continues to do the things I don't like I'll continue to do things he doesn't like.

Might work for you.

done that dp keeps mixing the washing and i hate it so he put jeans etc in with dd clothes so i took them out and put his fav white shirt in. he wasnt pleased but it was him that switched it on and i always tell him to check and he obviously didnt lol

i just spoke to my mum and told her how it made me feel. she said do u feel better after getting all that off ur chest

Thats patronising.

I guess you could tell her she won't get to see her grandchild if she keeps threatening violence.

Haha re. the washing machine, my dh still hasn't managed to work that, only the tumble dryer.