Is this disrespectful to partner ?

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To stay in touch with and occasionally see your ex's family. I mean 1-2 times per year or something.
Broke up with him years ago, no interest whatsoever in him no communication at all for years, but his family were like a 2nd family to me, took me in and treated me as a daughter, even after the break up we stayed in touch, lost contact for a while but have been in touch since and they would like to meet up Covid permitting.

However feel that this may be disrespectful to my current partner, the ex has never been there when I go, he wasn't a nice guy and i've zero to do with him, I see his family as my own friends.
Would it be wrong to meet them again ? Fine to be told it's out of order.

No I don't think it's disrespectful. My parents still have contact with my former sister in law. She visits them and they still exchange Christmas and birthday presents.
They divorced almost 20 years ago and both have since remarried.

Thanks for your reply and that's great to hear they have maintained contact.
The break up was nearly 6 years ago, cheated, abusive and got with another woman, I just don't want my partner to think i'm meeting him too or i'm trying to get close again or something, but I will have a chat with him about this and hopefully he will understand.

No, of course it's not. What is disrespectful (or rather controlling and invariably abusive) is for a partner to try and dictate who their other half can have social relationships with. Do you have reason to suspect your partner may take issue with you maintaining contact with your ex's family? How would he/she react if they did have a problem with it?

No I don't think he would have any issue with it at all, I just wondered if it was really a done thing to do. I just think it's a shame to have to cut ties.

Still in close contact with my exes parents. They actually came to.our wedding. My new partner likes them a lot and vice versa.

A bit extreme but no, it's not disrespectful.

Provided you explain and don't hide it from your partner then I don't see why it should be an issue.

Pre covid I still saw my ex father in law, was his emergency contact for his home carers (he's now on a home so ex bil is now contact)
I still have contact with ex as we have a child together but my now dp is OK with it.

Thanks for the replies, it's nice to hear some similar stories. Totally understand having contact with exes given there are children involved.

I’m still in good regular contact with my Ex’s (split up 11 years ago) family. But we have Dc. He doesn’t see them but his family does. I’m single but would have no interest in altering this contact if a partner didn’t like it.

My parents split up 30 years ago and my dm still pops round to my grandparents for a coffee every couple of months, they do birthday cards, christmas presents etc. Yes when children are involved it's different as they maintained a relationship throughout my childhood, but my dm could easily have stepped back and left it to my father to facilitate or just not bothered once I was old enough to not require adult involvement, but she loves them dearly and they love her.

I still meet up with my ex's sister at least once a year, he was an absolute cockwomble but she is lovely. We broke up over a decade ago now and she attended my wedding to dh etc, we are friends despite how we met.

Not disrespectful at all unless you are putting them before meeting your current partners family/spending time with them.

I’ve written a Christmas card to an ex boyfriend’s mother and one for his sister too. She is one of my closest friends.

I dated this ex 40 years ago.