I’ll probably get flamed but here goes.
Oh of nearly a decade loves world of war craft. I know little about but it appears to be a game that never ends. Oh always says you can play for hours and still not complete anything - great. I’ve googled it and addition to WoW is a real thing that many have suffered from.
When we first met he was on it all the time and had been addicted for many years prior. Admittedly he has a good job and is hard working. But her stay up until the early hours, play it for hours on end and go to work tired. For the nights he couldn’t stay awake he would get up really early to play. If we went out at the weekends he’d be gagging to get home and play. It also affects his mood, I’m sure of it. Probably a mix of the tiredness and actually from the game.
On paper he’s a great man. He’s hard working, he’s worked in the same job for 15 years, is a great hands on father to our two dc, he is supportive, he cooks but he does bugger all around the house.
Anyway, a year or so into our relationship he gave it up. I think he was recognising it was too much. He still played video games but they weren’t like wow - not so addictive. No problems.
But a few months ago he started playing again. I raised my concerns over it as it caused problems last time. He said he wasn’t going to play it much this time.
However, here we are again. Still he is going to work, being a great dad but often at the weekends particularly at the weekends during lockdown as we had nothing to do, he would spend hours on it. He spends evenings on it too. Normally we would go to bed same time but now he’s up and down on wow and wants a pc in our bedroom.
It negatively affects his mood. He denies it but I notice he’s more short tempered when in a game.
Aibu to be pissed off? I try talking to him about it and he says things like would you rather me go pub then I’d be out rather than staying in playing games (maybe I would prefer if he went out sometimes). Says he needs something to do when he’s bored - I could think of loads that needs doing around the house.
I don’t have the time to sit around playing games for hours on end.
It hasn’t really affected his parenting. He takes the kids to school around his hours, he bathes them, cooks, he takes them out for walks but it’s the in between bits.
Last weekend he spent about 5 hours on it continuously one afternoon as we were all home that day and had nothing to do plus the extra time he managed on it too.
I’m really miserable. Aibu? I sound like a nagging wife but he seems to have forgot the issues we had the first time. It’s not got that bad yet but he give it up as it wasn’t healthy!
I just feel a bit neglected.
Like he said it’s the game that never ends so it’s difficult to turn off.