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Next door’s Christmas lights

22 replies

CardoMondo · 04/12/2020 09:18

We live on a shared drive with 2 other houses. We’re all detached but our face actually faces the other two house.
We’ve had minor disputes with next door (or house closest to us) for years regarding parking, partying under our bedroom window in the small hours, banging and clattering in the garage at 6am on a Sunday, a hole in the bush etc etc ... none have resorted in an actual argument but the relationship is strained shall we say.
Last year he put Christmas lights up on the 1st December and had them flashing into our bedroom window all night every night. It was making our whole room flash continuously. I let it go for a few days but it was really getting too much so I asked him if he would mind either switching them off at 11pm or at least stop the flashing. He stopped the flashing until the week before Christmas and then put them back on again until January. I believe he overheard me slagging him off to DH around the same time.

Anyway, last week in November this year he put the bastards back up. Flash flash flash all night. I was going to give it a week before asking him to stop it but low and behold, someone else cut his wires and broke them as well as decapitating his reindeer. He immediately blamed me and said he’d be reporting me to the police but he checked his CCTV and found it wasn’t me, it was a young bloke who had cut numberous houses lights on the same night. He apologised to me. I accepted. However he’s out there now putting up new lights and they’re more excessive than the ones he had up before!!! How do I approach this without causing a barny as he’s already sensitive about the bloody things since his house was targeted. Or am I being a Scrooge?

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TheQueef · 04/12/2020 09:20

New curtains will be easier.
You can't reason with some people.

Weebitawks · 04/12/2020 09:20

It's very tricky. If it makes you feel better, I have a neighbour whose Christmas lights play one verse of a Christmas song over and over. I was horrified at first but they have grown on me 😂

lioncitygirl · 04/12/2020 09:21

Someone decapitated his reindeer?!? What?! Shock

IsFinnRogersDead · 04/12/2020 09:21

it was a young bloke who had cut numberous houses lights on the same night

Perhaps he has friends?

CardoMondo · 04/12/2020 09:21

We have blinds up but light shines straight through them. I did suggest black out curtains to DH so maybe that is the way to go 😞 so frustrating.

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Mrsjayy · 04/12/2020 09:22

Just ask him to switch them off at bed time andleave it at that. He sounds. A total arsehole who leaves Christmas lights on all night!

CardoMondo · 04/12/2020 09:22

@IsFinnRogersDead

it was a young bloke who had cut numberous houses lights on the same night

Perhaps he has friends?

No a few houses have got the same bloke on cctv.
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CardoMondo · 04/12/2020 09:23

@lioncitygirl

Someone decapitated his reindeer?!? What?! Shock
Yeah it was one of those wicker type statues in the front garden. Shame as I quite liked that but no doubt he’ll return later with a bigger one that dances and plays music 😂
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User478 · 04/12/2020 09:24

Such a shame that the same young hooligan came back...

Get a stick on blackout blind.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 04/12/2020 09:26

I can see why someone decapitated his raindeer. In my opinion people keeping lights, especially flashing ones on all night are dickheads.

44PumpLane · 04/12/2020 09:28

Honestly, as petty as it is I'd put something super bright that shines into his bedroom window on flashing...... He'll soon understand how bloody annoying it is and hopefully have more consideration.

If not then the only option is a blackout blind of sorts, but blinds and curtains will let light in the sides so I would actually suggest that you get some thermal blackoutaterial with the heat reflector stuff on the back (the stuff that is literally impossible to see light theough).

Stick or sew command velcro around the outside and then stick the command velcro to your window surround.

You can put the "blind" up when you go to bed and it'll be snug around your windows thus stopping the light disturbing you, but it's not hugely expensive and you can pack it away in the loft seasonally to be brought out each Christmas. The command velcro on the window frames can be easily removed and simply replace the sticky tabs the following year to repeat the process.

Mrgrinch · 04/12/2020 09:31

Wow I can't believe someone went round cutting people's lights, that's awful.

If I were you OP I'd try and have a chat with him whilst he's being apologetic towards you and agree on a time for them to go off. If that's not possible then I'd suggest an eye mask.

BaileysforBreakfast · 04/12/2020 09:34

I've got these stick-on black out blinds. They really work.

Your neighbour sounds like a selfish, irritating twunt.

MotherExtraordinaire · 04/12/2020 09:41

I think he's made his views clear and likewise you slagging them off in listening distance was as shitty imo.

It would bug me, but I think the onus is on you improving the blackout element of your bedroom.

CrotchetyQuaver · 04/12/2020 09:44

I'd be trying to negotiate a midnight lights out, but he sounds a dick. Blackout curtains is probably the easiest option...

movingonup20 · 04/12/2020 09:54

I would politely request 11pm they are turned off and offer to pay for a timer. To increase the chance of success, agree with him that the vandalism was bad and compliment him on the new lights and say you do enjoy them in the evening ... but despite having blinds they are keeping you awake, very politely, very respectfully and butter up his ego .

Chickychickydodah · 04/12/2020 09:55

Buy a very large flood light ( think ww2 ) and shine it at their house .

DingDongDenny · 04/12/2020 10:12

Well, obviously his new light show is so impressive that it's inspired you to get your own, even brighter, even flashier set. I'm sure he'll love them

Runnerduck34 · 04/12/2020 11:30

Hes being completely unreasonable, most people would happily switch them off at 11pm why does he insist on them being on all night! Given the tension if possible I would invest in a black out blind and blackout curtains but depending on windows that can be a big expense if thats not easy or too expensive Id have to talk to him again,or his wife if easier, or get your OH to do it?

VinylDetective · 04/12/2020 11:33

Control what you can and black out your bedroom window.

OnTheBenchOfDoom · 04/12/2020 11:40

Surely it is light pollution and they should go off at night? Hardly expensive to buy a timer that the lights plug into . Ask him who benefits from them being on all night?

You can get temporary blinds that stick on with suction cups which we used to have for travelling when the children were little. That way you only need them for the Christmas period.

Bloc blinds have channels that attach to the side of the window recess and do completely block out light I believe.

keeprocking · 04/12/2020 16:13

@MotherExtraordinaire

I think he's made his views clear and likewise you slagging them off in listening distance was as shitty imo.

It would bug me, but I think the onus is on you improving the blackout element of your bedroom.

Why is it the responsibility of he person being incoinvenienced to remedy the situation? I'd be looking for the original vandal/public spirited young man with a handful of fivers.
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