Hi all, this may be a bit long so I apologise.
DS is 10. I split with his dad when I was pregnant. At the time he was on a low wage but he decided to pay £30 a week which I was happy with it at the time. When DS was a few months he met a new girlfriend stopped paying that so I went through the then CSA and they calculated around £40 a week, again fine.
Then a few years go by. CSA changed over to the new system which I’ve never dealt with.
My ex was keen to make our own arrangement rather than go over to the new system. I thought I would give him the benefit of the doubt.
Admittedly he does pay. £150 a month. He always pays it monthly on the date (for example the 25th of each month rather than 4 weekly) so it’s just over £35 a month ish.
Now as for me, I am struggling to work as DS has additional needs as does my youngest I have with my partner. My partner works and earns an okay wage. We get by and live within our means. We aren’t well off but don’t struggle either.
As for my ex. He’s barely seen DS in the last year. I could probably count the times on my hands and it’s only for a few hours at a time. There’s all
Sorts of issues which I won’t go into. He doesn’t have to pay anything else for DS other than maintenance.
It’s plain obvious my ex is on better money these days. He seems to have it all. Holidays, cars etc etc.
I seen a job advertised whilst searching for one myself. A job in the same place he he works and very similar roles for alright money. Obviously I don’t know exactly how much he earns exactly but it’s considerably more than he used to. He has obviously worked himself up in the business. He brags about his promotions yet he never makes it
Obvious he earns anymore 🤣
I put the said salary into the cms calculator and if the salary is around accurate he should be paying
more. Say around £60-70 a week - even with the young child he now has.
Now I’m probably the least money orientated person there is. I don’t really really expect anymore but surely £35 a week is measly compared to what he should be paying?
He barely sees DS so it’s not like he had to feed him regularly, pay for school things etc.