My mother who died recently told me about a year ago that she wanted her ashes scattered on the sea near to where I live. My father and siblings though have basically said she has to go where they say, not where she wished. I live quite a way away from where my father and siblings live, so I can understand they may be upset that my mother's wishes to have her final resting place away from where they live. However my mother always enjoyed visiting me and my family, often on her own ( My mother and father did not get on very well owing to my father's infidelities), and we always loved having her with us. I have even suggested that mother's ashes are split so they get what they want and my mother gets what she wanted too. But my father et al say that I am being selfish and unreasonable. But all I want is for my mother to be heard and have her wish granted.