To think this is him attempting to cheat?

[December202020]

A bloke I know loosely from back home inboxed me this afternoon in relation to my comments on another post, lockdown/tiers related. There is no romantic history but he did ask me out on a date a couple of years ago, I declined as i was seeing somebody.

After saying he agreed with my POV and making a joke about the 'conspiracy theorists' he asked how I was, all fine and normal.

After 10 minutes of polite chat he said it would be great to see me once restrictions ended and we could grab a coffee / go out in the city.

This man has a serious girlfriend, a beautiful one at that.

I won't be entertaining it, that goes without saying, but AIBU to think this is him trying to cheat or have I misread the room? I can be sceptical, sometimes to my detriment, but i see no other reason he would want to come and see me (somebody he once expressed interest in) if not to try his luck and disrespect his partner in the process.

Yeah he slid into your dms

Yeah he was sounding you out.

If you'd been an old friend or an ex it would have been borderline but this was clearly an attempt to get into your knickers.

The cheek of it, when his entire Facebook page is a shrine to his relationship and his seemingly lovely partner

Would you say something or no?

I would want to know if I was her, I think.

Similarly I wouldn't want to cause any upset.

What a prick.

It wasn't blatant enough to tell her. Just ignore him from now on.

Is your self esteem really that low that you think the only reason anyone would want to talk to you is for a quick fuck?

@Ponoka7

It wasn't blatant enough to tell her. Just ignore him from now on.

Exactly, there's nothing to tell. He was testing the water but if you approach the gf to tell her, you'll come across as unhinged

There's nothing to tell right now. He hasn't blatantly hit on you, and could easily pass it off as meeting an old friend. Stop replying and leave it be

I'd reply with something like ' yeah, it would be great to see you and meet your girlfriend. Let me know where and when'

'The cheek of it, when his entire Facebook page is a shrine to his relationship and his seemingly lovely partner'

Often the people who portrey their relationships online as picture perfect generally are full of shit.

My ex and his wife go on about how in love they are, how amazing their life is. All the while they both beat each other up and trash each others property.

@Sinful8

Is your self esteem really that low that you think the only reason anyone would want to talk to you is for a quick fuck?

Oh give over.

We've never been friends and have zero history bar him asking me out on a date.

Why else would he want to drive for three hours on the motorway to come and see me?

Men don't go to all that effort for an innocent coffee with an acquaintance.

I haven't replied and have no intention to.

He can't see that I've read the message.

I see your POV's that there isn't really anything to tell the girlfriend, it's just this kind of thing irks me as it's how my philandering ex used to behave.

Men don't go to all that effort for an innocent coffee with an acquaintance

I agree and its nothing to do with your self esteem.

He’s a creep. Ignore him/block