To worry I'm much uglier than my photos

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I feel abit silly. I've been messaging a man that I have been face to face with three times for a brief conversation. So he has seen me in the flesh. Once he stood about a meter away speaking for a minute or two. Then he called over the street to speak to me twice. Then he moved house. Added me on Facebook.

We've been texting and there is a good chance of things going further and us meeting. But I can't help thinking I could be misleading him with my profile pictures.

I don't filter them. But when I take one I take loads. It has to be the right light to find one I like. My phone camera isn't the best either. I know my camera makes me look flawless. Also my hair looks a totally different colour based on the light. Also my hair looks lovely until I go outside at this time of the year. Then it's a frizzy mess.

I asked an ex once to take some photos as I didn't know how I truly looked. He took about 8 awful photos of me sat on the sofa. I looked a clown as he was snapping them from a bad angle and I was gormless on them or mid goofy laugh. I looked much bigger than I am too. So it didn't help.

Now I know I sound like I'm putting myself down. But I'm worried he thinks this flawless women with long smooth hair is going to show up. But I'm actually abit frizzy and gormless looking. Which is making me anxious.

Not to mention other women seem so good at natural shots. You know when they get snapped looking at their kids or sipping wine. Not me. It's just not me at all. Aghh
Ladies help.

But I can't help thinking I could be misleading him with my profile pictures
But he's already seen you in person 3 times ? And appears to have no issue.

He has seen you in the flesh so knows what you look like, you are being ridiculous.

She’s not being ridiculous 🙄

Don't let other people amazing 'natural' photos make you feel bad about yours. Someone I know put up a lovely photo of herself drinking a cup of tea, a casual quick snap where she looked great. So her followers thought. It took three seats to find the right lighting, about 20 photos to choose from and then a bit of editing before it went on Facebook.

You're being a bit silly but I can understand what you mean. I have gave a friend who is quite ordinary looking in real life, even a bit plain, but her Facebook photos make her look gorgeous. Some of it might be filters but I actually just think she's really photogenic.

I have the opposite thing where I look better in real life!

I wouldn't worry though, he's seen you in the flesh now so there is no issue.

I’m also not sure about the logic here. He’s seen you in the flesh three times. I don’t understand why you feel he will think you will look different to those three times.

I’d understand if you’d never met, but you have, and not once, but three times, so you know full well he knows what you look like.

Try to stop worrying. The more you worry the more you will do your own head in. I'm the same I take loads of pictures before I'm happy. When I was pregnant I wanted some pictures with my other 2 children and my bump. I looked dreadful and ended up deleting them 😞 now I think so what. I can't go back

Don't worry, he has seen you in person, he knows what you look like! I did OLD and took several photos for each one I chose but I was often told I looked better than my photos irl. I think as long as you don't use filters or ridiculous camera angles, you'll be fine. It's normal to look better irl especially when you're animated as that's attractive - it's hard to take a good photo.

I think it's just a bit of a shock for any of us to see ourselves mid expression as we don't see ourselves talking/laughing. The pictures that your ex took of you are probably more misleading, a 0.01 second snapshot of a fleeting facial expression.

He has seen you in real life. I don't know what more to say.

I do understand where you are coming from, OP. I've just gone back into the dating world, and i end up worrying about these sorts of things. We all generally put the best photos of ourselves on SM, why wouldn't we? But if he's met you in real life he clearly knows what you look like on a day to day basis, and if he's interested in you, he's interested in you.

Do you video call at the moment? Do you send each other photos of yourselves (not those sort of photos...) Give him plenty of opportunity to see you as you are, and if he is keen, says that he finds you attractive and is generally complimentary, then enjoy it!