I will start by saying I am quite heavily pregnant so possibly being over emotional and irrational but DH and I have just had a huge row over something and he's made me feel like a terrible person!
Basically, this year, like for many people, hasn't been easy. 3 family bereavements close together (DH's side, not Covid related) lockdown's, job worries, home schooling etc. It's all taken it's toll.
We are in a tier 2 area. Have 1DC (6) and another due early next year. Have both worked throughout in busy jobs (me WFH, DH has had to carry on going into work, not front line, but unable to WFH) Basically not really had any time just us since probably this time last year (again appreciate there are a lot of people in this situation)
Although the lockdown rules have lifted slightly more for our area, my parents still are unable to see DC. Which I get is no ones fault, it is what it is, but by the time we get to Christmas, it will probably be 8 weeks since they have seen DC when we used to go round there at least once a week. I also would like to see my parents (neither are in the best of health and both are early 80's) but again I get the reason behind it.
This weekend, DH's sibling and partner have offered to form a childcare bubble with us and have DC for the weekend (drop off Saturday lunch time, pick up Sunday afternoon kind of thing) we won't go into their house, will literally drop DC at the door. It is probably about 2 months since they have seen DC as well and they are really excited about it.
I get that technically it is in the rules for our area. However I feel for my parents not being able to see Dc. So i casually dropped into conversation that I would appreciate it if DH's sibling didn't go overboard and post loads of pictures of their weekend with DC in the family messenger group we have. My parents are in the group and I know they will be upset about them not being able to see Dc, but DH's sibling seeing them.
(Possibly also relevant to point out we have a support bubble with one of DH's parents, as we unfortunately lost the other parent earlier this year. We generally see them once a week)
Dh has gone mad this evening and called me selfish, controlling and a few other choice words. Saying I am unreasonable and that it's not his fault and not his siblings fault so why I am having at him. I argued that all I was doing was making a suggestion and if he disagreed then we talk about it, but it descended into a full blown row and he has now gone to sleep in the spare room.
I am happy to be told I am being unreasonable, but in my hormonal state of mind this didn't seem like an extreme ask.