Aibu to feel used?

[Marie898]

Very long story short.
My now ex and I were together 10yrs. Up and down cheating on his part. All forgiven moving on all was good. I was diagnosed with genital herpes type 1 this September. I approached him asking if he had been cheating again. I was uneducated and didn't realise it can lay dormant. Non the less he said he felt like him changing was for nothing and we split. We agreed that we wanted to be together and would use the time apart to work on us. During this time I said I didn't want to be intimate if he was open to meeting other people etc he said no. We slept together maybe twice since (within the last two weeks) and shared affection kissing hugs cuddles etc since the split. We done everything together still even though he moved we shopped movies the typical things. His phone bill is on my name and bill was higher than usual so I checked and found out he has been speaking to someone else for a few weeks.

I am broken and struggling he admitted to it and said sorry he wants to be there for me will always love me typical bs. I just feel so used like I was a stop gap while he was out there meeting new people. Am I being unreasonable to be pissed off?

If he's cheated and he's speaking to other people now, he doesn't value you in the way that you need. It's fully justifiable to feel used - I think most of us would feel that way too. Good luck and I'm sorry, OP

He's behaving entirely in character. He's spent ten years behaving this way and treating you with contempt. Are you genuinely surprised? Or pissed off with yourself?

Its not unreasonable that youre feeling used but seriously op you need to keep apart.

This man has given you genital herpes.

I know it can lay dormant but it doesn't just comr from nowhere. Not only that but he's been spreading it to other women. Who knows what else hes given you. Get yourself a chlamydia test quick smart and stay away from him.

Used because of the recent cheating or the decade previously? He sounds revolting. Please never see him again. You’re worth more than this. Everyone is.