@malificent7
Basically everyone else is crap apart from her and the others are too scared to stand up to her.
Don't expect anybody to stand up for you. This has been my experience. IN a kip williams study about bullying, only 2% of people will be a bystander who intervenes. But more people do NOTICE what's going on. Not everybody mind you. But what's shocking is that people notice and do nothing.
I was pushed out of a group by one very domineering woman. It was a group we both had every right to be in iyswim, so I can go back when I'm ready. I need time. She gave me the silent treatment (while love bombing every other member of the group). If anybody noticed, not one of them said anything. I wasn't expecting any heroism, but just a bit of 'hey, owl one, what do you think?', if i noticed this being done to somebody else by the most dominant member of a group, that's what I'd do. Perhaps it's that willingness to stand up for others that makes me her target. I wanted to belong. But in the end, when she ejected me from the group I worked on my values and it was good for me in the end.
I could say I feel sorry for her because she is only faking being confident and is clearly very insecure to bully out somebody who has no agenda to be more popular than she is. I do want to check in with myself and make sure that I'm acting in accordance with my own values. So I guess although I'd like to be popular, i want to be worthy of being liked more than I want to be popular. So it helped me to stay on course, just reminding myself of that.
There are people who have a running hierarchy in their heads all the time. People above them, they use for validation. People below them, they use to feel superior. These people are out there in droves. I think I trigger them because I don't blow smoke up the ass of these types who need a lot of admiration for doing the same as the rest of us. A little warning bell goes off in my head ''oh shit, covert narc'' and the next think I know they're trying to get me out of a group.