Miserable first trimester

[RosieFletcher]

Hello, this is my first post here... I am currently around 7 weeks pregnant and ashamed to say how unhappy I am and how much I hate this feeling. I was pregnant earlier this year ( that pregnancy did not make me feel this awful) and I was happy but it ended in miscarriage ( I was not too upset, I took it logically and was happy I could conceive; i am in my mid 30s and was not sure if it would ever happen). I was happy when i found out i was pregnant but soon forgot all that as i feel absolutely awful. I feel constantly sick ( i am not being sick though), and my day to day is just survival by eating unhealthy carbs every hour and forcing sips of water or squash. I can't really move as that makes it worse. I am trying to work but my productivity is very low ( which adds on to feeling awful). On top of that i have indigestion and heart burn ( helped with Gaviscon), stomach pains and it burns when i pee ( no UTI). I feel like this is ruining my life. I used to be a happy, energetic and healthy person and now feel like i am a super unwell, bed ridden mess. I also hate that i am so moaney and ungrateful, most women say how pregnancy is a miracle and this is meant to be an experience and that yes sometimes its difficult initially due to the physical symptoms but it will pass.. but when? In 3 months? 3 months of this is too much to think about.. and then i feel there is something wrong with me for feeling this way. Sorry for the long post.. i just wondered if anyone out there felt similar and how they coped...! Thanks for listening!

Oh no so sorry you feel this way. With my last pregnancy I had to have a surgery to remove it ( assisted miscarriage ) and they thought it was ectopic ( luckily it wasn’t but it was not viable ) so know all about those early internal scans ( at one point 4 doctors sat there for an hour discussing as the probe was ... well you know where !). My DP was not allowed either but I guess that is just something we have to accept with this pandemic. He was able to come to the private scans though. If you feel you can’t wait that long try a private scan if you can, to put your mind to rest. We only went once, but it was worth it.

For the nausea the only thing that’s made it manageable is eating little every hour or so ( usually biscuits or crackers... maybe a toast or a plain sarnie). Also I have two biscuits as soon as I wake up ( well maybe ten mins later ) and wait 20 mins before getting out of bed, that’s made to a mornings’ manageable. Message me whenever, You’re not alone xx

What helped me was keeping a diary. I still felt rubbish - but when I looked back at my diary, I had to admit I wasn't feeling quite as rubbish as I had been a few weeks earlier.

It always seemed unfair that I could really have done with a seat on the tube in those first weeks, but no-one could see I was pregnant. Whereas once I was blindingly obviously pregnant and getting offers of seats I felt fine!

@RosieFletcher I'm so sorry you had to go through that with your last pregnancy!

The covid restrictions are completely understandable, but it's still so hard having to go through those early scams alone.

I hope this pregnancy is far happier for you, even with all the horribleness of the first trimester. It's suck a kicker that the time you feel worst, and things are most likely to go wrong, is exactly when you aren't supposed to tell anyone. Please don't feel guilty for feeling fed up.

I hope you feel much better soon!

I've been very lucky in many ways so far, and am feeling a lot less grumpy than earlier (thanks for the excuse to vent I really needed it).

I have one viable pregnancy and one empty sac that's still hanging around, combined with the bleeding it feels like am just waiting for things to go wrong almost, for some reason the delay in the booking in appointment today made it feel more like that's the case. Totally irrational I know!