Crying tired child

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Popped into my local b and m after work today for cat food. We are in Scotland tier 4. A couple with a young boy approx 3, cried and had a tantrum all round the shop. A high pitched scream. Why didn’t one parent take the child out to the car?? I could even tell that the lady at the till was annoyed. I’m not blaming the child but come on, people need a word with themselves.

I like the idea of a common curtsy.

Maybe one of the parents Is having a mental health crisis and can’t deal with said child’s tantrum alone... you just don’t know

I don't agree that the child should've been taken out of the shop.

I get that it's annoying/ irritating to listen to a child having a tantrum, but I don't agree with the whole ''it's common decency'' thing

If it were in a hospital ward, or at church, then yes, common courtesy would apply, as these are places where quiet is expected, but a shop at Xmas time ? No.

Children will have meltdowns anywhere, for any reason. That doesn't mean that the parents must put complete strangers discomfort ahead of their parenting decisions , particularly in a place where peace and quiet are most definitely NOT a priority.

We also don't know that the 'couple' were actually a 'couple', do we ? So we cannot know whether one of them was even able to take the child elsewhere, do we ? Could be the man needed to choose the shopping for himself, and his sister was paying for it......................(or lots of other possible permutations)

There's going to be a LOT more crying/ screaming kids in the shops before Xmas, so maybe try a little 'goodwill' instead of bashing total strangers in the net................?

I honestly don’t know why you would care enough about this to post about it in a forum. There are so many different scenarios that would mean yabu.

I could argue about this till I’m blue in the face but I’m not going to. I’m not going to listen to silly scenarios that never happened. Why would the lady at the till exaggerate? She looked stressed and tired listening to the child. If any parent thinks it’s ok to leave a screaming, panicking and stressed child to wander about in a shop needs to take a long hard look at their parenting skills. There was another adult there who was able to take the child out to calm him down. I live in a small town, I know off these people, they also do drive.

I always feel really sorry for kids having a massive tantrum and their parents are ignoring it.

They're overtired, overwhelmed or overstimulated and a tantrum is how they express it.

And no you don't have the right to inflict it on everyone else.

I'm with you on this, OP. I feel sorry for people who work in shops sometimes. If it's not already bad enough to be working in a busy public place during a pandemic.

Child should have been taken out of the shop, or at the very least, the accompanying adults should have hurried up. Some people have real sensitivity to that kind of noise and it could've been distressing.

True, it's good parenting to not allow a child who is having a tantrum to get what they want. It's also not good parenting to show children that you can behave however you like in public with no consequences.

YANBU 2 parents and a shrieking child one takes the child outside.

It’s not fair on a child who is either overstimulated or overtired to continue dragging them around a shop if you don’t have to.

Wow. It's gone from a child having a tantrum to a screaming panicky and distressed child😉 drip drip. Also if you don't want people to give their opinion, that's right option not argue then I suggest aibu is not the place to post.

Yup, @Marzipan12 , I'm with you.