Am I being unreasonable

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My mother in law always arrives on birthdays and at Christmas ladened down with gifts for my children. She is very generous and loves them dearly but it makes me feel that it makes the presents that we have bought or even what Santa has brought look insignificant in comparison. Am I being selfish? My husband doesnt feel the same way. He says if she wants to spoil them let her!

I let the grandparents get on with it. Use the money it saves us on days outs, activities etc.

Your reasoning is unreasonable. Not wanting your children to have too much material stuff at Christmas would be understandable, but objecting to MIL's gifts on the grounds that they make yours look inferior is irrational.

So you are complaining because the children’s grandparent give them nice parents?

No I dont complain to them. Mayb I should let them spoil them and be grateful.... just feel like they shouldn't get so many toys from granny and granda that santa doesnt compare.

I guess I am being unreasonable then.... around the world in 80 moves.... you are right should just use the money it saves is to take them on days out etc.

I completely understand you OP. It is irritating when they by big expensive presents, and just rock up with them without asking ahead. Then we sound rude by saying "Thank you, but next time could you ask?" We always end up with duplicates we've put away but then have to get rid of.

I understand where you are coming from. I’m a single mum ex is useless I’ve been going shopping with my mum who I love and is amazing. I wouldn’t have been able to shop without her this year. At the same time I will say oh look T that that’s nice and she will buy it for my little one. Of course it’s lovely she wants him to have loads of nice presents spoil him which I love. At the same time I’m like Ahhh I can’t afford the same amount I’m not jealous but I feel like I should be the one providing more . I no it sounds so childish I would never ever say anything cause I’m also very greatful of everything .

Santa takes one present to thousands of children. Of course he can't get as much as grandparents with only a few children to buy for. They wouldn't fit on the sleigh.

@Aroundtheworldin80moves

Santa takes one present to thousands of children. Of course he can't get as much as grandparents with only a few children to buy for. They wouldn't fit on the sleigh.

Exactly right!

My mil does this; she buys as much for our DC as we do on birthdays and Christmas to the point that it overshadows our presents. Last year at Christmas I asked that she just give DD one present to open on Christmas Day and we save the rest for Boxing Day and the following days to spread it out and so that DC aren’t overwhelmed. I wouldn’t want to ask her to stop as both her and DC enjoy it but I get that it doesn’t feel great to feel over shadowed.