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3mo Napping on me

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Charbar123 · 01/12/2020 10:19

My 3 month old will only nap on me during the day. He sleeps perfectly well in his cot at night. A lot of people have said he should be sleeping in his cot during the day but he refuses and wakes after 5-30mins. Any advice?

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Camomila · 01/12/2020 10:24

My 10m old is napping on me right now Smile

If you don't need him to sleep in the cot (eg, to make a cup of tea/clean/just have free limbs etc) then its completely fine for him to nap on you.

When I need to get him off me I wait 5 minutes so he's properly asleep then put him down in his cot and keep my hand on him for a bit then run away.

Mylittlesandwich · 01/12/2020 10:26

My 1 year old still naps on me or DH. They nap less as they get older so you aren't spending as much time on the sofa. I like it, if it works for you then do it. If it doesn't then try putting him down. When DS was new we would put a hot water bottle in his Moses basket to take the chill off then take it out and put him down. He stayed asleep longer if he was warm.

WankPuffins · 01/12/2020 10:29

Are you happy with him napping on you?

I have a 3 month old too. We don't even have a cot. She naps on me in the day and sleeps next to me at night. My other two were the same until about 3.

You should hear what a lot of people say to me about that Grin

If you want him to nap in his cot then you could try and get him used to it. If not, carry on as you are.

One of mine had just turned 18 - it goes so fast anyway. If you are happy, don't try and change things.

Ijumpedtheshark · 01/12/2020 10:39

It’s only a problem if it’s a problem for you. My DS napped on me for at least a year and I loved it as I’d get myself settled with a drink and a biscuit, my phone and a movie and just have some me time.

Initially I tried to fight it and tried to get him to sleep in his cot or a bouncy seat. Never worked and just made me stressed. I became so much happier once I just accepted it.

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Charbar123 · 01/12/2020 10:40

Thank you! This has made me feel a lot better. I enjoy him napping on me but have been made to feel that I'm doing the wrong thing! I will carry on as I am and enjoy him being so little

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SillyOldMummy · 01/12/2020 10:41

Do what makes you both happy. If it is going to set you up for problems (eg he won't nap with anyone except you, and/or you are going back to work soon) then maybe try and sleep train. But, I wouldn't bother. They are only tiny for a short time and the snuggles are so lovely. Get a sling if you want to avoid the negative comments,it seems to shut people up.

zigaziga · 01/12/2020 10:43

If you really really can’t just watch TV with the baby snuggled up on you and need to do household jobs, maybe a sling?
I had a rest while the baby slept on me for my 1st but with a second they mostly slept on me in the sling because I wasn’t able to just veg out as much (although she’s 1 and we still do that sometimes).

zigaziga · 01/12/2020 10:44

You don’t ever regret cuddling your baby too much also.

timeforawine · 01/12/2020 10:45

Mine did this around that age, moved onto pushchair naps at around 5m old then back to cot around 7m alongside pushchair when out
I loved it, knew nap time so would make a large coffee, get snacks and sit with my ipad and headphones and chill. Same when she'd nap in pushchair, i'd make a drink, park her in the kitchen with the snoozeshade on then go sit in the living room with the TV on quiet, doors open so i could hear her

Ijumpedtheshark · 01/12/2020 10:54

I’m glad you’re going to continue to hold him, you’ll never regret it! I still sometimes cuddle DS when he naps and he’ll be 5 soon!

ShirleyPhallus · 01/12/2020 10:56

DD still naps on me at 8mo and it’s just glorious. I love the cuddles and so does she. Enjoy it while you can

suziedoozy · 01/12/2020 10:59

I used to prepare myself for LO’s naps and we would all snuggle up. Relax and enjoy it, they will be off being independent before you know it.
Cherish the baby snuggles

TheMagicDeckchair · 01/12/2020 22:21

DD is a snuggly child and wouldn’t nap in her cot as a baby, only on me or someone else. My mum was obsessed that I should be getting her to settle in the cot.

I had to laugh a few months ago when DD at 2.5 curled up in her lap and happily had a nap with grandma with her little hand down stuffed down grandma’s top!

I will never look back and wish I had cuddled her less. All that making rods stuff is nonsense. Some kids are just born wanting to be close to you.

twinmum2007 · 01/12/2020 22:42

Depends if you want to use the nap time yourself. A baby will get used to day sleeping in a cot of you persevere. I had twins so had no choice but to put them in their cots but it took four months before they were fully in the routine.

Marzipan12 · 01/12/2020 22:49

Do what works for you. My DS napped on me and fell asleep on my knee every night untill he was 5. Loved every minute and it hadn't caused any longterm problems. He is 12 now and we have a very close bond still, and he certainly dosent need me to help him sleep anymore 😂

Meatshake · 01/12/2020 23:14

Just enjoy it.

Unless your phone is on 2% battery, the telly remote is out of reach and your bladder is protesting. Grin

Seriously though, he's not going to be 18 and refusing to sleep unless he's on your lap.

Just be careful about nodding off with him Smile

Osirus · 01/12/2020 23:34

Mine napped on me until she gave up her naps at 2 1/2. Loved every single one. I miss those days so much.

Enjoy it OP.

Queenofthemadouse · 01/12/2020 23:35

Enjoy it. It goes by in the blink of an eye

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