PIL used to provide childcare 2 days per week for dd3 up until it became clear she had severe developmental delay and I gave up work to look after her (last December). Lockdown happened, and as one of PIL is ECV we've barely seen them since. That's fine, understandable.
However, they've made no effort to see or speak to us or the kids. In the first lockdown I would help them get shopping slots and deliver anything they couldn't get, ask how they were etc. They never asked after us, just moaned about GMIL. It's been a really tough year for us, trying to access services for DD, dealing with her problems and they've not been a support at all.
DH has just mentioned in passing about how PIL are putting together DCs Christmas presents so they can play there on Christmas day. I said he must surely be mistaken - PIL are still ECV so why would we be going there at Christmas? Apparently it's ok with PIL.
But it's not ok with me. I think they are either so vulnerable they can't see us full stop, or they're not. I'm fine with them not wanting to take the risk of seeing DC (and us), but this picking and choosing upsets me. So they're not bothered about being part of our lives all year, but we can play happy families at Christmas??
I may well be BU, but I'm really hurt by their lack of interest this year. I feel like since DDs problems became apparent they don't want to know, because she's 'defective.' To clarify, I think shes wonderful, but clearly PIL don't 
So AIBU?