To not sort out contact time for XH over Christmas?

[ToadCandle]

I’ve had a text from my XH:
“need to sort out whats happening with kids over xmas as we had em here last year”

AIBU to tell him to fuck off, seeing as our children are aged 20, 21 and 23? And that one lives abroad, one lives independently locally and one lives WITH HIM? 😂

You're still doing his wife work!

Hahaha. What a snobbish thing to do. Chop chop OP sort out his arrangements for him

Snobbish?! Rammed autocorrect. Dickish on.

Rammed?! Ffs.

I would reply with "I have no idea what is happening yet as I am yet to ask the DC what they will be doing" Then, add them to the chat message and ask them what they would like to do, When they answer he will see it and and you don't need to communicate with him again.

Ridiculous though that he thinks contact over Christmas needs to be arranged!

Ignore him!

"I dint know. Ask them yourself" should cover it.

Although it did give me a good laugh that he is expecting you to.sort contact for adults in their 20s

I'd message "Why are you asking me? They're adults. If you don't want to see them, tell them yourself. Hopefully, they'll vote with their feet soon and it won't be a problem for long for you".

Who's this??

Hahaha that’s hilarious!!

I have a 15 year old step son - my husband and his ex just let the child decide what he wants to do each year tbh!!

My husband and the child mum rarely message each other anymore 😂

I’d probably just not respond to him tbh he’s being ridiculous

Our boys already choose what they do at Christmas and they’re 10 and 11, this is brilliant 😂

I can’t believe that some of you think IABU! 😳