To be really peed of with ds 1:1 ta

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A bit of a back story, Ds has a statement for 30 hours a week, he has cp, he wears splints, I send him to school with his pe kit (of course) and another pair of plimsoles which fit over his splints, just in case they do that sort of pe.

Today DH, DD (her school broke up yesterday) and I went to pick up DS and DNephew.
DH was putting DN bike in our boot, and dd and I were carrying the boys bags and stuff and DS laptop. DS (with his frame) and DN were walking in front, ds was walking weirdly, but I couldn't think how and three times he tripped. We got to the car and I was lifting him in when his daps fell of (daps local word for plimsoles) I realised then that he had no splints on, he didn't have his regular shoes on either, he only had his daps on, not even the daps on that fit his feet, but the spare ones which fit over his splints.
I left the kids with dh and went to ask why. DS TA , said oh don't worry it was only because we had pe last lesson, and it was easier. So I said, but his daps are the wrong ones, are you saying that he did pe in daps which are 2 sizes to big, she was so unconcerned. What peed me of was she said we are trying to foster his independance. So am I unreasonable in being really peed off, and would it be wrong to complain in writing.

i dont think it would be wrong who is she to decide whats best for your ds?

It just that she is so hit and miss, ds always had the same ta up to now and they gave him a new one this yr (he is yr 2) so maybe it is us getting used to her, but it took him years to actually get on his feet, and he only learnt to walk a few feet unaided over the summer, so its bloody hard to do anything any way, with out daps which hang of his feet.

YANBU. Bet she wouldn't be prepared to do PE in shoes 2 sizes too big. And surely fostering his independance doesn't mean encouraging him not to wear presumably consultant supplied orthopaedic aids.

YANBU- I would write to the school to point out what will be done in future

YANBU. The TA isn't authorised or qualified to make those kinds of decisions about your ds. Even the most physically able child in the world would find it bloody difficult to do PE in shoes that are 2 sizes too big. Complain away.

DH was so angry that his jaw was ticking, (badddd sign) and it had to be me that went in, as I think he would of lost it completly. I am the last person in rl to confront people, wrong combo imo disabled child and a mum who really doesn't like confrontation.
Its just that she practically said so what!

yanbu
Whta is it with these people. dd was once put in her daffos and then they put her piedros over them I was furious.
Complain and do a print of of what he should be wearing and when.

Put it in writing
Arrange a meeting to discuss the things your previous TA 'KNEW' and this TA needs to learn, preferably with the old TA

is a daf a daffo.
the more I think about it the angrier I get for you. That would have hurt him.

no, dap is a plimsole.
2shoes, she must of been in agony. i would of been beside my self. I have been thinking about this since 3, and have come to the conclusion that I will also write a 'what my child needs from you' list. I have written a letter of complaint several times now, but at the mo, it is to full of 'she is a tw*t' so I am hoping that I will have calmed down by a week on monday!