To not really buy my baby any first birthday presents

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Second child it's his first birthday next week. To be fair I have bought him a personalised book like his older sibling got to read when he is a little older and a cuddly bear that he has already got and is very attached to so wanted him to have an emergency spare.
Other that we already have so many toys and it's also Xmas soon. I just don't see the point. He obviously won't remember/care. I remember wrapping his older DBs then unwrapping them the next day and him being more interested in eating the wrapping paper than the actual toys.
AIBU? I feel I'm not but I am just feeling guilty as his older brother obviously got a lot more.

I did the same. Nothing needed, so don’t waste the money.

YANBU. You are right, it seems like a pointless thing to do. Does he have a savings account or a piggy bank? Put some money in there instead.

No point spending for the sake of it. Save the money for when he does need something.

We got DS a doll for his first birthday - it was really cheap. Relatives went all out so he got more than enough. Just had baby 2 and not getting her anything for Christmas for same reasons - she won’t have a clue and doesn’t need anything.

A book is a gift!
I presume you’ll do something to mark the day. Like having a cake.
Take a coupe of pics and he’ll never know anything other than he had a lovely first birthday.
You could get dc1 to wrap something to give to him.

You're dead right.
No harm in doing it obviously but it's not really for the baby's benefit

Give him a box that some other Christmas presents were delivered in. He'll love it.

He won't remember this, don't feel bad about it.

We got dd some token presents for her first birthday but she wasn't interested in them

For her 1st Christmas she was 6 weeks old so we didn't get her anything other than a letter from santa for 1st Christmas and a baby's first Christmas stocking.

Perfectly reasonable. No point creating gratuitous waste just because a consumerist society says you have to.

I see your reasoning of course but I find it kind of sad

Wrap up a couple of toys he has already, get him the book and let him have some cake

We are putting money into our little one's account and hopefully will be useful for him when he is older

Perfectly fine and very ecologically sound not to fill up your house with objects just to make yourself feel better. Your 1 year old will know no different. Shower them with love and spend the day doing things they enjoy instead. Much better all round.

Good idea just to put some money in his savings. Oh and yes there will definitely be birthday cake! That was ordered months ago. Everyone gets a birthday cake in this house quite often when it's not even anyone's birthday

YANBU.
DC2 is 3 months old and I'm not buying her anything for Christmas, I'm going to dig out the baby toys and wrap some up for her stocking (otherwise DC1 will wonder why Santa didn't bring her anything).
We might buy one or two small items when her first birthday comes around but we already have so much, and family are always generous with presents too.