Can I copy my ndn outdoor decs?

[16lily]

My ndn has put a lovely Christmas tree in their garden and I’m desperate to do that same. Should I? Should I ask the first or is that creepy? We’re not close but amicable.
Yanbu - go ahead a copy
Yabu - it’s creepy and sad, do your own thing?

I'd find it weird.

I think they would probably be flattered, but mention it first.

It's perfectly normal to put a Christmas tree in your garden. If I was your neighbour it wouldn't cross my mind that you were 'copying'. Carry on. The more cheery sights the better this Christmas.

I thought you were going to say they had done a particularly unusual lighting arrangement or something! Loads of people have trees in their gardens, it’s hardly an original idea, just go ahead!

Desperate?

That would irritate me if I were your neighbour. Why not come up with something yourself.

Why don't you tell them how lovely it looks and would they mind if you tried to do the same or similar. It would look coordinated from the street.

Tell them you love it so much, you're doing it too. Then proceed.

Put a tree, that's fine. As long as you don't mean exactly the same tree with exactly same decorations. That eould be... Concerning

Perfectly normal. Hardly copying when there are thousands of other houses doing exactly the same.

misread thread title as "cope with" rather than copy
A Christmas tree in the front garden isn't particularly exclusive to be descried as copying.
If it was something unusual - eg life-size sleigh with six reindeer, maybe a bit weird, but a tree isn't really copying although you could just look out of the window at an angle across their front garden and save money

If they'd put a Christmas tree up on 11 May and you put yours up on 12 May, that would be weird. Both putting Christmas trees in the garden on the run up to Christmas? That is well within the bounds of not remotely weird.

Depends. Are the ornaments little ceramic heads entirely of their own faces? Creepy if so. Otherwise, crack on.

@AfterSchoolWorry

Desperate?

That would irritate me if I were your neighbour. Why not come up with something yourself.

If you would be irritated at other people also putting up Christmas trees on the basis it’s unoriginal I have some bad news for you....

Not this year.... but next year get in and do yours first then they are copying you

A Christmas tree? Fine.

Three inflatable snowmen, a laser show, and a pond with ice skating penguins, find you own style instead!

Although actually if you haven’t bought a Christmas tree or already got one in the garden, I’d go a little different - so if they’ve got a six footer, I’d go for a mini forest of smaller ones, that sort of thing.

My neighbours though? I’d just ask them! Some houses round here have coordinated decorations and it looks really lovely - so icicles which run across the roof edges of both houses in a pair of semis, that kind of thing.