To wonder why everyone is suddenly posting inheritance AIBUs?

[JanQi]

Has this always been a thing? Am I missing something?

I was thinking the same thing

and you start another 1 lol.

Because they’re greedy? Because they’re selfishly counting down the days for their relatives to die? 🤷🏻‍♀️ No idea... but people really show their true colours when they post stuff like that.

I wondered that last week, weird that so many seemed to be going at the same time

Maybe an invasion of some strange forum devoted to family fall outs

This is the third "why are there so many inheritance threads" thread I've seen in two days.

It's because it's a long term issue that percolates in the back of people's minds, seeing other threads jogs their memory and they think they may as well post their own issue.

It just seems odd that there's been a sudden onslaught. Perhaps it's because the current situation has got people thinking about their own mortality and getting their affairs in order.

Try posting about class a few times and it will take over as the prevailing trend. Something really fun like 'I grew up in a council house but went to Oxford and now I'm married to a Lord but I still call my evening meal tea, what class am I?' We've not had a good spate of class threads for ages but they always come in batches too.

No idea but it's not uncommon for people to try to figure out your worth. People have done it to me, and I am 30's, fit and healthy and not worth a great deal.

It's always like this. It comes in waves. I once wondered about why everything is suddenly x topic, week later it's full of y topic.
Some make it up as it's "curren5ly popular topic". The trolls seem to be on with trends.
Some post because they see a thread and reminds them of their issues so they ask.

In a week we might drown in strollers threads. Or pets.

But they should really be asking in legal tbh

It’s because they plan on seeing their dear old rich relatives at Christmas for 5 days.....

I was wondering this, have seen about 20! Someone researching an article I think.

Its boring.

The only answer is 'you are only entitled to what the deceased is giving you. If that is everything or nothing or the split is 50/50 or 0/100 or 5/95 then it is what it is' anyway.

Arguing about what is 'fair', before the person is even dead in most of these cases, is just so vile. As is this expectation that everything should be split equally.

I always hope these people that post these threads are left nothing.

@Pebbles086

It’s because they plan on seeing their dear old rich relatives at Christmas for 5 days.....

too funny!

But yes OP I wondered the same. You never normally see them and suddenly there’s loads.

Perhaps this is how some are choosing their Christmas bubble?

I agree sort of but people do need to think about wills. So many people thinking that somehow when they pass on something they want to happen will happen (and often it won’t!). Leave your estate to whomever you want, it’s your money but for god sake make a will.

The rules and allowances are changing all the time. We review our wills once every 5 years.

I did wonder if the current situation is making people contemplate their parents mortality

@Pebbles086

It’s because they plan on seeing their dear old rich relatives at Christmas for 5 days.....

Boom 👀

The extra 50,000+ deaths this year have possibly caused a bit of a shift:

• less of the estate spent on care home fees
• death in service benefit payments
• life insurance payments

Many people have probably happily bobbed along expecting that they or their family will leave behind little or nothing. Now potentially there is more to leave or to be left.

The provisions made may have seemed fine when all there was were a few pieces of jewellery can now seem less fine when there is possibly more to leave or be left.

If DH and I were to die suddenly in the next few years we would be leaving an estate of a few hundred thousand. Not because we are very wealthy but because we both work and have life insurance policies. If we survive into retirement our estate will be worth significantly less and any value could be eaten up by care costs.

We remade our wills fairly recently and took into account both scenarios.

Because parents are seeing they could die suddenly and are very sensibly discussing their plans with their children.
Most of the threads here are due to parents raising the issue, not the children.

The only answer is 'you are only entitled to what the deceased is giving you.

You can actually contest it if it leaves you in hardship, courts can interfere, but it's not cheap and it's not guaranteed. Like if for example if 1 dies and leaves nothing to the spouse who was at home caring for them so they are now left with nothing at all including nowhere to live.

But yes. In most cases whatever is left to you, is what you get.

Because parents are seeing they could die suddenly and are very sensibly discussing their plans with their children.
Most of the threads here are due to parents raising the issue, not the children.

Yup, everyone should make these plans. We were just discussing ours yesterday.

Also, while some threads are awful and grabby, in others it's plainly not about the money but about parents favouring one child over another for spurious reasons. There have been some threads where I would've felt very hurt in the poster's position.

The only answer is 'you are only entitled to what the deceased is giving you.

Only if you are the beneficiary (and depends on country anyway) . If you are the person making their will, that answer doesn't help at all.

The baby boomer generation is starting to die so deaths will only shoot up for the next decade. Plus all the covid deaths.

@MindyStClaire

Because parents are seeing they could die suddenly and are very sensibly discussing their plans with their children. Most of the threads here are due to parents raising the issue, not the children.

Yup, everyone should make these plans. We were just discussing ours yesterday.

Also, while some threads are awful and grabby, in others it's plainly not about the money but about parents favouring one child over another for spurious reasons. There have been some threads where I would've felt very hurt in the poster's position.

I was just about to say this. I agree that inheritance often brings things to the surface about parents favouring one child over another, or effectively punishing one sibling for making a success of their lives.