Had a massive freak out and now worried

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Im 25 weeks pregnant and I had a disagreement with my parner earlier on but ended up going mental!! Like screaming, crying, sobbing for 15 minutes.. i could feel baby kicking me during it ..and now im worrying if this could have affected baby anyway? And also why did i freak out!? Is it normal to have crazy hormones at this stage? The argument wasnt even that bad i just broke down 😭

Yes it’s normal to feel edgy and more aroused in mood. Part of pg
Baby will respond to stimuli, and shouting and Your elevated HR will be a stimulus
Try relax,take care and it’s not easy being pg. in all Likelihood baby will be fine

If you think that everytime you get emotional you're in for a long hard pregnancy

This wasn't just emotional though.. i have been quite emotional but this was crazy like psycho sobbing and screaming.. pacing up and down not knowing what to do... i have had many crying moments but feel like this could hurt baby?

Won't hurt the baby 💛

Unlikely to hurt baby, however stress is best avoided for you & baby during pg
Try Recognise the triggers,avoid or deescalate stressful events before it gets to screaming

What was it over?

It won't have hurt the baby, OP. Hormones have a lot to answer for! I am in my fourth pregnancy and now I handle the hormones well, but I remember having an episode like you've described with my first. It totally exhausted me! Look after yourself x

Your baby will have been fine but do speak to your midwife or gp if you find your moods being low often

It was me saying that I don't feel like he listens to me but then it escalated but there was no need for it to get like that.. usually i dont get like that but i just felt like i broke down and was hyperventilating a bit...

I do find it hard to control my emotions but never usually get that bad.. i dont think i could contol myself enough to not shout if i needed to but i wouldn't say its often enough to worry too much but this was worrying for me... hope it doesnt happen again

Talk to your midwife, get advice and if need be a perinatal psychiatric consultation
Did you have a mood disorder before being pg?

I have spoken to midwife in past about low mood and think i have depression.. i am speaking with a councillor who will be calling me in a few weeks but seems its getting worse

Ok, so the positive is you have a plan and an insight into how this impacts
You can get support,and medication that’s safe in pg to get a Better balance
I wish you well

A rare emotional outburst will have no affect on your baby, however the stress hormone can pass onto the baby if it becomes a regular thing. Speak to your midwife and look after yourself - it’s difficult being pregnant!

I felt like this on occasion on my first pregnancy and my midwife was super understanding and gave me some relaxation techniques which helped reduce my level of stress//anxiety. It’s important to keep an eye on your feelings to make sure it doesn’t escalate x

Sorry - cross post, just saw you’ve already spoken to your midwife!

How about utilising the ABCDE model? It’s used often in OCD, but I found it helpful when I’m feeling really anxious or stressed. It’s about taking time to think about why you are stressed (your thought) challenging that belief and then proposing a different belief instead.

For example - I’m stressed because I feel my husband doesn’t listen to me. But I know he does because.....

I used to find that by the time I challenged the belief, I was calm enough to communicate to my husband why I felt the way I did rather than just losing it!