To be fuming or am I overreacting

[CrotchBurn]

Fully prepared to be told to get over myself.

So its saturday, in lockdown, so me and dp are just lounging at home in pyjamas.

Doorbell goes, some bloke standing at door smoking a fag. Turns out it's a mate of DPs who just decided to rock on up unannounced. WTF!!!!

DP them disappears to garage with him to have a beer.

He comes back in and asks me if I will steer one of the cars he's fixing while he and friend push.

I say no. Immediately feel bad. Now two hours later friend is gone.

I feel bad I didn't help with the car :-(

At the same time I feel really irrationally pissed off and I cant figure out why.

Have I just been a sulky bratty bitch here? I'm still pissed off. And also feeling guilty. Has coronavirus made me mean?

I think you're allowed to feel however you feel, because there are no rules. And you need to respect how you feel rather than trying to suppress it. Talk to your partner about it. 'I felt really upset when Bob came over, but I don't know why. It was more of a feeling than I wanted to have about the situation. I think I'm jealous because your friends are nearer than mine.'

Is this not a viable thing to say in your relationship? Are you not able to be honest with him about your feelings? What would happen if you were?

Is be pissed off someone turned up expecting anyone in my household to break lockdown rules to hang out with them. And they would be informed of that.

Why did you refuse to do it? Was it because you were in pyjamas; you could have put on shoes and a coat.

@CrotchBurn

I think a major thing is I'm jealous. I'm jealous that his people are local so he is constantly popping in to see people (all with "valid" pretexts of course) and I cant because my people require further travel to see.

So I acted like a bitch because I'm jealous. He sees people two or three times a week, meanwhile except for the occasional work related outing I am only communicating with mine by whatsapp etc.

Jealousy is such an ugly emotion. But I guess jealous is what I am!

Are you on glue?

TooLittleTooLate80 ^^

How very helpful.

@TooLittleTooLate80 That’s an incredibly nasty response. The OP examines her feelings, comes to a realization and explains it and you totally dismiss her in a bitchy way without any sort of helpful criticism or insight? What’s wrong with you?

@TooLittleTooLate80
Are you a bully? Because you sound like one.

@TooLittleTooLate80
Well, aren't you a charmer. Really rude.
Personally, well done op for recognising where the issue comes from, and it's understandable if a wee bit daft. I think we are all a bit sensitive about stuff that normally would pass us by without a blink. One good thing, DPs pal didn't seem to be expected to come in ( obviously I don't know what your lockdown position is) , they had a bit of a potter about with cars then he left. I'd gave a wee chat with dp, casually say you were feeling a bit fed up missing your pals and leave it at that. I'm sure he'll understand. chin up, tomorrow's another ( groundhog lol) day

what does DP DH and all the other abreviations stand for?

It means dear husband or dear partner etc, it’s ridiculous in my view and I don’t use it. Who calls their partner their dear partner in real life when referring to them 😂

Dear Partner, Dear Husband, Dear Wife etc