AIBU or is friend ghosting me?

[Christmasmum3]

Friend of 10 years has been exceptionally flaky this year. I've just put it down to Covid and tried to be empathetic as it's been such a difficult year for everyone.

We've met up around 4 times this year which is a bit less than usual. It's mainly me who initiates. Usually when I ask if she wants to "catch up for a coffee this weekend etc" she wont respond until right at the last minute or after the weekend has passed.

I last saw her around 2 months ago and told her I was pregnant, since then my mum suddenly got quite ill and passed away three weeks ago, which she knows because we message all the time.

I need my friends more than ever just now and messaged her on Sunday to see if we could catch up this weekend. She responded to say where should we meet up which I replied to and since then I've heard nothing!

She messaged me earlier in the year to say how much she values the friendship and that I'm one if her best friends so I know she cares but I'm at a loss as to why her actions don't match up?

Tempted to just stop contact - aibu? V hormonal rn.

I don't think it sounds like she's ghosting you at all if you're always messaging. It is just a bit harder to meet up this year?

Is she a transparent person? Could she be secretly suffering with depression or anxiety and hasn't told you?
I don't think she's ghosting you.

Is she very anxious about covid? Several of my good friends haven’t met up with anyone this year. Also people are very stressed with a lot on, I don’t know what your friend’s situation is but she might have things going on that are making her preoccupied or super busy, and appear flaky. It doesn’t sound as though she’s ghosting you and I’m sorry she hasn’t been able to support you in the way you need.

I have a friend like this. She probably thinks that text of yours suggesting a place to meet WAS the arrangement. Can you text and say what time do you want to meet at X?

Thanks for the replies.

For context we live 10 minutes apart in an area where you can meet up to 1 household outdoors or indoors at a cafe etc up to 6pm so although it's a little more difficult it's not overly challenging to meet a friend for a coffee.

She does suffer from anxiety at times although she is still going to work so isn't isolating and is still going out and about.

I always say I am happy to go for a walk instead of indoors etc if she is more comfortable with that.

I'm probably just being sensitive.