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Husband’s snoring makes me stabby (mostly lighthearted)

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puddleduckmummy · 28/11/2020 01:21

Every night he falls asleep before me and if I’m not quick enough his snoring basically stops me sleeping and even when I fall asleep it wakes me up. I’ve spoken to him about it, I’ve purchased him aids to help him not do it, I regularly kick him when he is to make him move he still snores on his side. He refuses to do anything about it. AIBJ to put a pillow over his head just so I can sleep?

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Moomin37 · 28/11/2020 01:26

I am awake right now due to my husbands snoring. He won't do anything about it and knows it's much worse after alcohol, yet still drinks. I have decided that my birthday present will be a night in a hotel to be away from the snoring. Sorry you're experiencing the same 😩

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puddleduckmummy · 28/11/2020 01:29

@Moomin37

I am awake right now due to my husbands snoring. He won't do anything about it and knows it's much worse after alcohol, yet still drinks. I have decided that my birthday present will be a night in a hotel to be away from the snoring. Sorry you're experiencing the same 😩
Oh moomin he better be paying! It’s frustrating isn’t it?! The more I try and relax, the more it irritates me and the less likely I am to sleep!
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BigPlanes · 28/11/2020 01:33

Does he need to lose weight? This was mine and it really affected my sleep. He lost a significant amount of weight and the snoring is gone. In fact, he made a tiny snore noise earlier and I was like WTF but stopped immediately. It’s like a new man!

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puddleduckmummy · 28/11/2020 01:36

He does but again, he won’t do anything about it, he says things like ‘oh I’m the fat man’ I’ve recently changed how I eat and he mostly eats the same meals but snacks loads too (defeating the whole point!) so he ends up get to bigger 🤦🏼‍♀️

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WelcomeToGreenvale · 28/11/2020 02:02

Earplugs. SleepDreamz are the best comfy foamy ones I've found. If a kick makes him shut up for a few minutes so you can drift off, it's all good. I'm a light sleeper and everything but my alarm passes me by with these, I just need a short time of quiet before getting to sleep.

Sounds like his weight isn't helping. I'm the same, I'm told I snore like mad and I'm fat, but my partner sleeps through it mostly. Talk to him, tell him straight how it's affecting you. Some couples sleep in separate rooms. Would you or he like that?

HelloBambinos · 28/11/2020 09:33

I'm the same with my husband. I take strong medication to sleep because if pain from my disabilities, I also wear earplugs and yet he still wakes me up with his snoring! Like your husband mine could do with losing weight also but again will do nothing about it.. He sleeps as soon as his head hits the pillow I have fatigue issues as it is and I get so angry at him he won't do anything about it whilst I suffer.. It's so selfish.. So nope no judgement here if you resort to the pillow method.. I may end up doing the same at this rate

HelloBambinos · 28/11/2020 09:34

*of

BigPlanes · 28/11/2020 10:39

Have you got a spare room? I would be moving in permanently. Sleep is so important.

OlympicProcrastinator · 28/11/2020 11:38

My husband did this. He refused to get help. I thought it was so selfish so I gave him a taste of his own medicine. I bought one of those squeezy horns. Every time he snored and woke me up I squeezed it and a big EEEH AAAWW woke him up. Every. Time.

He was down the doctors within 3 days and now has a machine that helps both of us to sleep better.

Kseniya · 28/11/2020 12:06

if it doesn’t help to talk, you can put the halfway up, it helps us

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puddleduckmummy · 28/11/2020 13:45

@OlympicProcrastinator

My husband did this. He refused to get help. I thought it was so selfish so I gave him a taste of his own medicine. I bought one of those squeezy horns. Every time he snored and woke me up I squeezed it and a big EEEH AAAWW woke him up. Every. Time.

He was down the doctors within 3 days and now has a machine that helps both of us to sleep better.

I love this! Unfortunately we don’t have a spare room (and I don’t want to sleep in the sofa!) it’s unfortunate that he gets up for work so early that he goes to bed shortly after (or sometimes before) the kids so by the time I go to bed, the chainsaw is already running! I can often hear it over the tv down stairs. I have a sleep tracker and my sleep is vastly improved after he gets up for work. It also records sounds so I think I’ll play him the recordings and talk to him again. I’m convinced he can’t be getting decent sleep either snoring so much. And it’s not just that, it would be better for him in all aspects to lose a bit of weight.

Thank you everyone, I’m glad it’s not just me!

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Moomin37 · 28/11/2020 13:51

We've slept in separate rooms since just before lockdown but the snoring is so loud it still wakes me up / keeps me awake and I have to get out of bed and stomp across the landing to ask him to put a sock in it. He really needs to lose weight but won't and also refuses to see his GP. I don't think he has any idea the damage this is doing to our relationship.

Waveysnail · 28/11/2020 14:13

You just reminded me I have to go buy some new earplugs

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