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To feel like giving up

6 replies

Maciesmammy · 28/11/2020 00:32

This probably isn't the right place to post but its where I find myself reading most of the time.
I'm really struggling at the minute to hold things together. Me and my husband are both working full time (lucky I know considering everything).
The thing is, I was never meant to be full time. I always told my employer I needed part time hours as I have a 8yo dd to look after. I was asked if I could a few more hours months back as something big was happening at work. I said yes, no problem, thinking this would last until things calmed down, but it has just continued, I got on with it. I was then asked if I would consider night shift for a few weeks as we were so busy it was hard to get a lot done during the day, I again agreed.
The thing is now my daughter has been sent home to isolate twice within the last month. She was only back to school 10 days and we have been told she has to self isolate again for another 2 weeks. I understand its no ones fault but this means another 2 weeks of me barely sleeping through the day and working all night.
Just to add, my employers are not the most understanding people, I could basically lose my job at the drop of a hat if I start needing time off every couple of weeks.
I dont even think I'm asking anything and thank you if you've made it this far, I just feel like I'm sinking rapidly and I no longer see a light at the end of a tunnel .

OP posts:
bossycolleague · 28/11/2020 00:40

Hi @Maciesmammy I am sorry you’re feeling so down, have you spoken to your employers (recently I mean) about going to part time?

Or would you be able to find another similar but part time job?

Gunpowder · 28/11/2020 00:47

That sounds stressful and exhausting. I feel for you.

Maciesmammy · 28/11/2020 00:47

I've been looking for other jobs but I cant get much at the minute. Honestly my employers are the kind you can't approach about anything unless it suits them. I could be out of a job in heart beat

OP posts:
HouseSpider · 28/11/2020 06:53

Your employer cannot force you to work full time, you are within your rights to ask for an adjustment at work. Do you have a HR team?

I would put in writing that you are unable to continue to help with the night shifts due to family commitments and formally request a change of working hours.

You sound exhausted, so it must be very hard for you. This will impact on other areas of your life and it is not worth it. I hope you get it sorted

Toilenstripes · 28/11/2020 06:56

Are you in Britain? If so it seems unlikely that you would get sacked for going back to your part-time hours. Do you have an employment contract?

Finfintytint · 28/11/2020 07:00

What’s in your contract? Are you in a union?
Your husband needs to share the childcare load too.

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