To hand in my notice?

[BrieAndChilli]

So went back to work after furlough on reduced hours so in order to make up the shortfall I got a job in a supermarket stacking shelves over night. It’s only temporary for the festive period. I’ve been there 3 weeks and I hate it. My contracted shift is Saturday night so means I’m trying to nap on Saturday to not be tired in the evening, and spend a large chunk of Sunday in an exhausted sleep. Then they want you to do more shifts during the week. Because I work in the day I agreed to do some evening 9pm-2am. But you are still go vent he same amount of shelves to stack and guilted into staying past 2am to get as much as you can finished. Then it’s like you are letting the whole team down by leaving ‘early’. They are now asking everyone’s availability over Christmas (Christmas Eve/Boxing Day) and we want to go to MILs for the 5 days we are allowed to as we are in different countries (we are in wales) and I know when I get asked it’s going to be awkward when I say no we are going alway.
Anyway I’m a wuss with these sorts of things and hate having the conversation. I’m working tonight and tomorrow night. So really I was thinking of working and then Saturday night handing in my resignation letter. Do you think that’s ok and also what shall I say? I hate letting people down but I honestly can’t spend the next few weeks knackered.

I think that’s fine. There must be plenty of people who need jobs and will be more than willing to do the hours.

Night shifts are really really hard so i wouldn't blame you for leaving.

Can you afford it? Personally I would try to stick it out a bit longer. I have been working nights for the last 6 years whilst raising my DS!

Honestly, you'll be replaced in a second. Do not worry about it.

Resign according to your notice period. That’s letting nobody down and there will be someone else eager if not desperate for that job.

You need to balance the money coming in with the hassle it is causing you. If the cost benefit doesn't stack up the hand in your notice.

If you do decide to stay you need to stop feeling any shame about asserting boundaries. They aren't paying you enough to guilt you into working longer hours and not taking time with your family over Christmas. "No I'm not available" is a complete sentence as is " My shift has now finished". You still have another job to do that you need to be awake and capable of doing.

OP, it's fine. I did overnight shelf stacking one summer holidays and the Xmas holidays from uni. You will be replaced in an instant, you are letting no one down, loads and loads of people will want the work.

If you can afford it quit , its a vile job at christmas time , both myself and husband did similar at different places many years ago ,
You are totally replaceable , it will be a slight inconvenience to them till the next person steps in, within days i would think.
They don't give a stuff about asking you or whoever works there to do the endless hours that christmas shifts require .

@blossomhill4 god that's so impressive!

The more you agree to do then the more they’ll ask you.

I would quit. I used to work in a supermarket many years ago. Management were nasty, you always ended up working at least 30 minutes over your shift and it's very clichey. Over worked and underpaid. I remember the management would eat at a separate table to us 'pheasants' and would just bark orders, one in particular loves the feeling of power over the shop workers

Yeah the guilt is pretty common in retail, just say no, they can't do anything about it but whine, but if you don't want to be blunt then go for it and hand in your notice.

We can afford for me not to me working the 2nd job and to be honest I could not work at all and we could survive and live a modest lifestyle on DH wages which I know puts me in a lucky position, just they we had got used to my income so when it dropped by £300 a month I kind of panicked hence taking on a 2nd job.
I do realise there are far to many people that don’t have my luxury and have to work 2/3 jobs just to be able to feed thier kids and put the heating on.
I did used to work as a waitress until 3am when the kid’s were little and then look after them all day and had forgotten how knackering it was surviving on little sleep.
DH has already told me to quit and to be honest everything is going to pot - can’t keep up with the laundry/housework, have stopped doing any of my project management course etc so I think I will work this weekend and hand my notice in.
Just looked on staff website and if worked under 1 month then you don’t need to work any notice.
Thanks for helping me talk this through, I’m just such a wimp and really find it hard to say no to people and also don’t like to let people down once I commit to something.

While it sounds like a crappy job (due to hours and management), presumably you took it because you could use the money. There’s nothing particularly reasonable about resigning in order to avoid telling them you can’t work some days/hours

Practice holding your boundaries firm and resisting the guilting. It’s a useful skill to develop generally.