To be pee'd off with friends who moan about how selfish their husbands are time and time again yet don't do anything about it?

[crazylife]

I have told them several times that I don't want to hear anymore because its the same crap just different days. Once friend has been banging on for years.

Part of me thinks a good friend should listen, but it really is the same thing just slightly different variations.

Suffering slightly from PMT!

to be honest, if a friend moans about her husband for ANY reason I always feel a bit embarrassed and that they're being disloyal by telling ME (after all, what do I care?)

and I tend to go "humm" and look a bit puzzled and then I change the subject.

or I laugh as if they're being really funny.

Get them all together and start a consciousness raising group like they used to do in the 70s. Maybe a bit of collective women power will help them sort their situations out once and for all.

You sound like your happy with your fella, so yes because they will bore u cos ur happy, no because your happy (only joking).

I have one friend whose DP is just awful and she really should leave him (I would in her situation) but she just does nothing and I have to listen to the same old 'dp has done this, dp has done that' and yet she stays. I am getting a bit fed up with it. she knows what she has to do, yet puts up with it in the hope that it will improve (even though nothing's improved for the last 14 years).
So no, YANBU.

Lyra, I have a friend who I love to bits, yet her DH is an absolute Victorian dad and some of the things she has told me have made me sooo cross, but what can you do?

I think now she just puts up with it, out of loyalty to him and also knows how foolish she sounds moaning about a situation she will never change.

Makes me mad though! It's hard to bit your tongue, isn't it?

I don't bite my tongue though, I tell her how much better off she would be without him and she agrees and yet does nothing. Her DP is like my dad was when I was growing up and I know what a relief it was for my mum when she finally kicked him out. It's hard to see a friend making the same mistakes. But I can't live her life for her and it's her choice.