Housemate urinates with the door wide open

[ShangelaLaqueefaWadley]

This really..
He's a male in his 30s, very gentle and kind, seems friendly, but he goes to the toilet with the door wide open.
He's fully aware that people walk past and see/hear.
Why ?? It's just disgusting

For the same reason that dogs piss on lampposts. To mark territory and exert authority.

It's not very kind and gentle.

Eewwwwwww

Totally inappropriate.

He's very meek, English isn't his first language and always seems very kind and smiley when I see him in the kitchen.
We have 2 bathrooms, but yeah, it's just odd and gross. He saw that I saw him once and looked really embarrassed but still does it.

He's neither gentle nor kind. He's asserting his dominance over you. Tell him to shut the fucking door.

Have you actually asked him to stop doing it? Or have you just been walking politely past without saying anything?

He’s gross. He’s trying to make you uncomfortable. He’s not kind.

Can you get rid?

Casually mention it. "Would you mind closing the door when you're in the bathroom - I don't want to cop an eyeful!"

Disgusting of him really.

I'd tear a strip off him - and tell him he'll be looking for new accommodation if it happens again.

He's very meek

No, that's just the topshow; the reality is that he's deliberately making you uncomfortable via something he probably thinks you won't dare speak about

So speak up clamly and ask him to stop ... but be aware he may well swap to something else

I have only walked past once and I think I was too much in a state of shock to do anything, but I have heard it a few times now.

It's very bizarre. No other behaviour suggests that, he almost seems shy, but I guess people are complex and that can manifest in different ways.
I'm in a houseshare with a few people and he's from a different contract. I need to just ask him or report it if he doesn't.

@ShangelaLaqueefaWadley

He's very meek, English isn't his first language and always seems very kind and smiley when I see him in the kitchen. We have 2 bathrooms, but yeah, it's just odd and gross. He saw that I saw him once and looked really embarrassed but still does it.

Just ask him to close the door, he probably doesn't think. My husband used to do that in the downstairs loo which is in the hall, eg he would come in, call out, "Hello", and then piss in the downstairs bog with the door open. One day I had a visitor and she heard him, didn't say anything, then he came in to the sitting room and saw her, realising what she'd heard and was very embarrassed! No way did he ever try to be dominant. I did, however, tell him it was disrespectful to leave the door open and he stopped doing it, most of the time anyway.

He was clearly raised by wolves and doesn’t realise it’s not OK.

There is no way around this, if you want him to cease and desist, other than to tell him straight. Sorry, OP.

And don’t phrase it along the lines of ‘would you mind...?’ because that leave it up to him to decide whether to acquiesce, or not.

Say ‘could you please shut the door when you use the bathroom’. You could even tack on a ‘it makes me very uncomfortable’.

If he continues after that, then he absolutely is not sweet, meek or mild. He’s an arsehole, and all bets are off.

I was going to ask about cultural but I can see you have mentioned English is not his first language.

My dad used to always leave the door open too and I’ve been to other houses too where people have left the bathroom door open.

Perhaps just shut the door yourself OP! And let us know if he takes the hint.

The same reason some blokes don't shut the cubicle door in the men's. It just doesn't cross their minds. It doesn't have to mean it's sinister.

Tell him to shut the door. Job done.

Don't say it makes you uncomfortable as some men love that. Just tell him it's bad mannered and gross.

Next time, pull and slam the door shut hard so he knows you're annoyed. Shout no thank you as you do it

Can be a bad habit from living alone or with people who don't care.

How does he react when you tell him to close the door when he's pissing?

DH does this all the time.

And leaves the seat up & often forgets to wash his hands then goes to the kitchen to get something out of the fridge

I think it's a genetic male thing?

How is no one shouting "Dave shut the door while you're having a piss!" ?

Id say its habit. Im female and all my family often do this at home. We just dont think. As we got older we'd often shout out Im on the loo if we heard someone coming down the hall. My ex found it really weird. It wasnt about dominance, disrespect or anything like that, just habit.
Sometimes i wonder what kind of lives/experiences people on here have had when every little thing a man does is straight away seen as abusive or controlling. Chances are he isnt thinking about you at all, he is just doing what comes naturally and going for a wee.
Might add though that we would generally close the door in someone elses house or if there was a chance of visitors walking past.

Next time, pull and slam the door shut hard so he knows you're annoyed. Shout no thank you as you do it

I’d do this, with bells on. Extra points if it startles him into a situation where he ends up spending some contemplation time cleaning the walls!