To be worried ?

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So ex finally agreed to stick to having kids Thursday and Friday night, after school and stay over. Don't know how long this will last but at least it's a start. I'm very anxious though that he won't return the kids and he will change their schools and I'll never see them again tho. As he's said to me as a threat that's he's going to do things i never thought he'd do amongst other things so I'm extra worried he won't return them. Or am I over exaggerating ? I Just want to hand them over knowing I'll see them again after his nastiness I'm very anxious

As he's said to me as a threat that's he's going to do things i never thought he'd do amongst other things

What things?

I don't think I would hand over my kids to someone who has made threats not to return them etc. I'd find out how to go about supervised contact or a similar route & wouldn't trust him at all.

I'm sorry. That's not really any comfort but that's my gut feeling / response.

What @HaveeeeYouMetTed said.

If he's said potentially violent threats about HIS own children, let alone any child, he should not be alone with them unsupervised.

I would take anyone threatening my DC seriously enough to go to the police. I would also refuse to hand them over to someone threatening them.

I appreciate that he's their Dad etc, but I also think that in very exceptional cases it's not the right thing to hand a child over to someone who is clearly either very angry or very unwell.

You say he has finally agreed , so have you been trying to get him to have them over night? If you are this worried then why did you want him to have them?

I wouldn't hand them over if I feared he wouldn't hand them back.

No I've not tried to get him to have them over night, to be honest I don't want him to. What I meant by 'agreed' was he's agreed to stick to those days and not come and go and he understands now that if he doesn't turn up at the right time or these days he won't have them
He made the threats towards me saying he will make
My
Life hell if I mess with him.

Is this parent alienation at its finest? My ex just brought kids back from contact and my 9 year old said to me that my ex told them that I ‘Pop out kids’ then I don’t care about them after that. Saying I don’t care about my kids! I’m so angry and upset! How can he get away with doing this! We don’t have any court order of anything yet but is there anything I can do about this?