This is so difficult I’m stuck between doing the right thing over the Christmas period and being a “bad mum” or “the evil ex wife” so we are separated he has a gf that he lives with. He will pick our dd up on Boxing Day and spend the day with her ( the gf ) mum and dad that’s 2 house holds, they then intend on travelling to see his mum and his brother that’s another 2 house holds, so 4 in total and as we are all well aware u can only mix with 3 house holds so I have told him he is to drop dd off to me b4 he goes to his mums his response was “so u expect one of us to go without seeing our parents” and my reply was “well I have to go without seeing my family at Christmas also” I have no issue with him having our dd over Christmas, it’s got nothing to do with getting one up on him or anything like that as we are quite amicable most of the time, it’s simply the law this year and it bloody sucks for everyone but I’m being made to sound unreasonable and like I’m being out of order 🤷♀️ Also how long is it until he can have her on his normal weekends after getting back from mixing with more households ? Common sense would suggest 14 days as that’s how long u have to self isolate if u had come into contact with someone with Covid does that sound reasonable? Or he could get him self tested and have her sooner if negative but then would that be seen as unnecessary testing ?