Long and boring story - ExH physically and emotionally abusive, have a son together age 7. Always pays his CM but always the bare minimum amount and the very first to report any changes, delay payments, pay back arrears at tiny amounts each month etc.
He has a daughter age 15 who lived with us (we’ve been split for 6.5 years!) when I moved out she stayed but spent most nights at grandparents or mums. He continued to claim child benefit for her and as a result his payments to me are reduced because technically he has a resident child, even though grandparents provided all material things, childcare etc.
Anyway. In lockdown, with the support of SS, DSD finally moved perminantly in with grandparents. SS were happy for this to continue on an informal basis so no special guardianship however she now hasn’t been living with exH since May and states she never wants to see him again.
I spoke to ex H because his income has increased significantly and his payments need to increase now DSD isn’t living there - by over £100 per month.
Annual review has come through and has increased based on his income but still 30% reduced because he’s listed as ‘receiving child benefit for resident child’.
ExH says he’s entitled to this because he’s ‘financially responsible for her’ (he’s not, never has been but definitely isn’t now) and it’s a ‘temporary arrangement’ (6 months). Address is changed for school etc and like I said, SS involved.
I’ve messaged child maintenance service but I expect that because he gets CB their decision will stand but it’s SO annoying.
AIBU to think this is fraud? And if so, would you leave it? Or report? Money is ok but we’re talking minimum of additional £50 per month and things are tight!
YANBu - fraud
YABU - he’s right, stay out of it.