Other half and facebook

[Tobeveryannoyed]

What is it with men looking and searching for other women on there 😡
Am I being unreasonable to think its wrong esp when one my auntie 😶 or old mates ex Mrs who he friends with but hasn't saw his mate in years and never meet her and they have now spilt up anyway 🤔

I search many people who pop in to my head 🤣 some males

Really oh I never do esp not if I'm friends with them anyway

Not sure it's a man thing at all,

Yes that is true prop worded it wrong but from my point of view it is cause its my oh doing it

If you're that insecure or jealous it's time to leave. He can search who he wants... maybe he's just nosey.

It's not a man thing though is it.

Is he contacting them or just bored and clicking through the "people you might know" bit? I was having a nose around someone's page the other day that I'm not friends with and probably won't be sending a request too or anything but she's got some lovely photos!

Yes I've said its not just a man thing I realised that after I posted , thats not the issue tho I'm just asking if ppl would be annoyed by it 🙃

And i have no idea 2bh boom45 , the mates mrs he don't even know her yet friends with her.
I dont have strangers on mine it literally ppl I know in rl but maybe its the thing on Facebook these days .

When he searched for a mate of mine on there last year, he waved hello as u used to be able to on messager don't know if still can , when I asked why he said he didn't do it .

I look up loads of random people on Facebook - old friends, ex's, people who have been on TV programmes like Secret Eaters so I can see what they're like now, old teachers, neighbours, clients...I'm a right nosy fucker

It doesn't mean anything. It's just idle curiosity.

I've looked up old friends who I went primary school with lol
But I don't search for people I'm already friends with lol :/ thats why I'm annoyed , if they post anything it comes up anyway on ya new feed lol so why need to keep check on them.

YABU

It doesn’t come up on your newsfeed all the time. You only see people you either see or engage with often. If he doesn’t see her, and they don’t talk, her posts won’t show up for him.

I know a lot of people who do this. I don’t, really - no idea why - but it wouldn’t bother me by itself. Especially as he hasn’t deleted the searches, if you can see them, so he’s not hiding it.

But boundaries are very personal and if this bothers you, talk to him.

How do you know so much about who he searches for?

When he searched for a mate of mine on there last year, he waved hello as u used to be able to on messager don't know if still can , when I asked why he said he didn't do it .

The unecessary and blatant lying means he was up to no good (or at least trying to be).

Yea I dont know why he would need to see my aunties posts though or his old mates ex Mrs 😂 and thanks for advice , maybe its just me then who it bothers more probably cause I don't do it but then again I don't use Facebook often and I know cause he dropped himself in it then lied to get back out of it . And I know from the lies previous when he doing stuff .

@TwentyViginti

When he searched for a mate of mine on there last year, he waved hello as u used to be able to on messager don't know if still can , when I asked why he said he didn't do it .

The unecessary and blatant lying means he was up to no good (or at least trying to be).

Thank you and I know its prop lies more what makes it worse .

YABU. Searching people on Facebook is perfectly normal.

As pp have said, there are multiple reasons; FB doesn’t show you everything your friends post. He might have missed something, or be curious about something.

FB isn’t actually the issue here though; the fact that you don’t trust him is and you need to address that.

The unecessary and blatant lying means he was up to no good (or at least trying to be).

It depends, I've accidentally clicked on something I didn't mean to while scrolling. How many people on here have posted about accidentally sending a friend request to someone they were just being nosy about?

I look up people I went to school with, friends exes, celebrities, people who just randomly pop into my head, people I haven't seen on my feed for a while, people who are in the local paper for committing crimes, people who a friend mentions and I think I know but I'm not sure.

@vanillandhoney

I look up loads of random people on Facebook - old friends, ex's, people who have been on TV programmes like Secret Eaters so I can see what they're like now, old teachers, neighbours, clients...I'm a right nosy fucker

It doesn't mean anything. It's just idle curiosity.

This is so me 👍😂

I thought searching for people was one kind of the point of FB. Or at least partly.

Regarding the wave or whatever its called. He's just probably clicked by accident.
Why are you so bothered.
I couldn't get worked up about it

I aint angry with him by the way he a brilliant bloke in other ways and it not like he messaged anyone again just annoyed me fact was family but I realise I was in wrong . Thanks for advice maybe il use it for searching more 😂

Doesn't everybody do this? 🙈

Well I do this myself. I'm nosey, there's nothing else to it. It's really nothing to be concerned about.

Not a man thing, I search for people every day. Normally when they pop into my head and I want to see how they're doing etc. If it's only attractive single women he was searching I would be concerned.