to be annoyed that other mums at swimming dish out chocolates

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after the lesson. Last week my dd's loot was 2 chocolate bars, more than she normally has in a week. It's a difficult one 'cos you can't really say no while she sees all the other lo's chomping away on chocolate and the other mums do it to be nice. But I'm quite strict with sweets at home AND I never asked for them to do it either. They're all total strangers.

Gosh I wish I had this OP's life too!

If you don't want your DD to eat chocolate (after all it is the devil's food!), then say to DD she can eat it later, or just say no!

Your DD will need to learn to not give in to peer pressure, so if you feel so strongly about it, say no.

If it was DD, swimming is before we have dinnner, so I would whisk away and say for after dinner. Depending on size of chocolate bar I amy actually let her have one straight away TBH though - but DD is really good re. eating and one bar wouldn't stop her from eating her proper dinner in my experience with DD.

I am dreading this sort of thing happening when my ds is older as he has food allergies. I don't think any food should be given to a child without prior consent from a parent. Sorry if that sounds over the top.

well I'm a really laid back person, not a lot bothers me, but i'd be a bit narked if my DD was given 2 chocolate bars by someone. i like to be the one to decide when my dd has a treat, and when I do decide a treat is in store it wouldn't be 2 chocolate bars.

my DD is 3.10 and if anyone gave her 2 chocolate bars she would bring them to me and ask if she could eat them.

I would either say yes she could have one of them, or no she has to wait after her dinner (depending on the time).

I would then put the other bar away in the cupboard and eat it later myself .

My DD is given a few smarties after ballet and my friend gets annoyed about it - but it doesn't really bother me tbh, although I just think it is unnecessary, but wouldn't dream of stopping DD having a handful of smarties..

Does this really matter in the grand scale of things??.. if you try to control the environment around your child it will drive you crazy.. just not possible...

My daughter does not have crisps or sweets at home at all.. they are special treats... so if someone else gives her some chocolate our conscience is clear.. just a special treat and that is the end of the matter..

YABU, especially given your username

It wouldn't bother me remotely, I'm afraid. I'd be delighted.

Different strokes for different folks ..

Take them home and have them for after lunch.