To be considering TTC during Covid

[maej79]

So my fiancé and I have decided to TTC.
This would be our first baby, and we don't have any concerns in terms of age, fertility etc but want to give this a shot now. (We have been for a few months already)

Personally I believe that there is no 'right' time to try to conceive / have a baby.. it will happen when it's right for you. But recently with the pandemic, it's been a little concerning. Being our first baby ideally I'd want my fiancé there with me, for scans etc and the birth of course.

I suppose I'm asking this just out of interest as I read a post earlier this evening online, from a lady that has just found out she's pregnant ask is hopeful that by the time she is due to give birth, the hospitals and restrictions will be lifted.. 🤞🏼

What do you think..?

We went for it. In 9 months time the situation could and will be very different. Its a good time to be pregnant if working from home as you can feel like shit in the privacy of your own home! We've also saved quite a bit for mat leave because not going out to eat/drink/socialize etc.
If you are worried about partner not coming to scan you can always book a private one as well, if you are able.
I'd say just make sure your job is 100% secure.

p.s. Not married here and no qualms about it....

@Tigger85 I am so so sorry

I also had to time or options to delay TTC. So no regrets. But I have found that antenatal care is very badly compromised, and the risks of exposure to Covid/hygeine is very poor in the hospital which scares me right now. So depending on your situation I would bear that in mind, but I hope that if you conceived soon things would be better by the time you were regularly going into the hospital. I think after what I have seen, if I were young and had no known problems, I would wait a month or two at least. Things are bad in the NHS right now, very bad.

Sorry, should say no time

Why are people saying get married first. confused I was engaged, had a mortgage, had two then got married. Who cares what order you do it in!

Because all too often the marriage never ends up happening because “it’s just a piece of paper”, because “we’re bonded for life now”, because “we can’t afford it now”.

Then the woman (usually) gets shafted when the man buggers off.

You don't need to be married or have a mortgage to have a baby.

@MummmyDayCareNameChangeAGAIN robbed of the experience of being pregnant for the first time!?

What does that mean? I’m expecting my first now and can’t think of anything I’m missing out on tbh?

Sorry for the late reply! Thank you all, lots of food for thought here x

It doesn't bother me not being married.
It wouldn't stop me trying either during a pandemic. There isn't much you'd miss out on? Not sure what PP meant by that .

We were lucky to conceive first time when we were trying but like others have said no one knows how long it will take.

I’d wait until things were more stable personally. Too much risk to Heath and the economy at the moment.

Many have gone ahead but there’s also a lot of complaints re partners not being able to be there, no baby groups open, lockdowns etc.

Well, how hypocritical from the mumsnetters.
You all bleat about staying home, following the rules, protect the NHS.
How do you think the maternity services are coping during the pandemic? Our sickness rate is 39%. Staff are on their knees. Morale is lowest I’ve ever experienced.
Yet you all think it’s a great time to get pregnant!
None of you will get the care you expect and then will come on here to complain after.

I'm 17 weeks. Actively tried for, DH is older though so we are on the clock so to speak.

DH hasn't been able to come to NHS sans but we've had two private scans so he could see baby and they're better than NHS ones anyway as we got to actually watch baby on a big screen, the NHS one was a small computer screen and just taking measurements.

Bear in mind, early loss care is shite atm. So be prepared for going through that alone. I had a horrible experience and other women have had worse.

Oh fuck off @Zebraaa It’s never a good time to have a baby - now - next year - any time - there’s globe warming and heaps of other reasons too! But I want my baby and I’m having it now and I not apologise for that and I’m sure anyone else in my situation feels the same!

Maybe the op will wait until you give her the green light to go ahead and conceive her baby

I’m in West Yorkshire and my husband has been able to attend my scans. Our NCT classes are going to be online which is annoying but can’t say I’ve missed out on much else yet due to covid restrictions. Hopefully things are just going to get easier anyway.