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Neighbours Dust!

16 replies

GameSetMatch · 23/11/2020 19:11

So I’m not it drip feeding I suffer with severe anxiety

We are having our house rendered at the moment, our lovely builder has been sweeping up and washing down the three storey scaffolding twice daily as it’s dusty removing the old render. Our neighbours on one side have just been around complaining there’s dust in their garden on their car. They have been at work all day in their car so we didn’t go around to tell them to move it because of the dust because there is no car to move (we told neighbour on the other side as their car was on the drive)

The neighbour who has just come around was really forceful and angry but I don’t know what he expects me to do, I’ve had a look and legally I don’t need to do anything it seems. He just stated his garden is dusty and so is his car. When this neighbour had building work done I didn’t complain about the noise or the fact his builder spilled nails in our garden I just picked them up and moaned to myself. I wouldn’t dream of going around and complaining.

I feel I’m a good neighbour, when the fence panel blew down in the wind I got rid of the old panned bought and paid for a new one, i dint ask him for anything. I’m really shook up and worried.

I know I’m waffling on, so AIBU or his he?

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Hohofortherobbers · 23/11/2020 19:17

He's probably being petty about the garden as it's going to wash away in the rain but I'd pay for him to visit a local car wash to keep neighbourly relations

Lilliarna · 23/11/2020 19:27

You should have told them so they could park elsewhere when they got back.

When I worked as a resident liaison officer on social housing projects the company would have been liable for damage caused by dust from scaffolding etc so I think yabvu.

Lilliarna · 23/11/2020 19:29

Damage to cars, that is. We had to make sure everyone knew not to park nearby.

GameSetMatch · 23/11/2020 19:30

Yes I agree with paying for damage, but a light layer of dust, that nobody but him can see?

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buildingbridge · 23/11/2020 20:07

but I'd pay for him to visit a local car wash to keep neighbourly relations

I seriously would not advise this. Otherwise you'll be paying for every petty little thing. This neighbours needs to get a grip.

Plonthy · 23/11/2020 20:10

Tell him to fuck off.

UsernameRebooted · 23/11/2020 20:12

Do a rain dance

icanboogieboogiewoogie · 23/11/2020 20:14

Maybe if he stfu you could buy him a voucher for a car wash and stick it in a Christmas card. If not, just leave it.

NoSquirrels · 23/11/2020 20:15

You just need to say “So sorry, neighbour - it is a bit of a dusty job. I checked your car wasn’t there this morning and the builder knows to check before he starts. It should be all fine by X day.”

You can buy him a bottle of wine “for being understanding” when the builder is finished. Kill him with kindness.

You’re not wrong, but some people are just less tolerant than others.

CoffeeCheeseandCupcakes · 23/11/2020 20:17

What @NoSquirrels said

Gobbycop · 23/11/2020 20:17

Dust lol.

Make your stand now, tell him to go fuck himself sideways.

Dust lol.

Tinyhumansurvivalist · 23/11/2020 20:23

Honestly I am really sorry but yabu (although not about the car). My neighbour had this done over the summer, it was a bloody nightmare. I couldn't use my garden, couldn't open windows, dry washing etc. I never see neighbours so I couldn't day anything it my car was covered daily as were my windows and doors. I am severely asthmatic so it caused massive health issues too.

Removing render makes a godawful mess, the dust sits in the air for hours so.it is possible.(unlikely but possible) that it settled on the car upon their return. Be neighbourly and considerate and pay for their car, windows and garden cleaned once you have finished the work

Elfieishere · 23/11/2020 20:24

Well if his car is covered in dust and he normally keep it tidy just offer to pay a tenner and run it through the car wash.

Sunshineandflipflops · 23/11/2020 20:25

I can raise you...my neighbour complained when I jetwashes the drive in the summer as “water was running into his garage” (they have a drain running all along the front of it abs we were sweeping it away from their side as quickly as we could) and then more recently because my mum watered my hanging basket for me and as it is right next to their side path, he complained that I had got “mess” on his path. The “mess” was...yep...water.

I would tell him you are sorry for any dust but you checked before work started and there was no car there. Maybe something along the lines of “I’m sorry, I know how annoying it must be, I remember when you had work done on your property and I had to pick up nails from my garden and put up with the noise”.

justconcedealready · 23/11/2020 20:48

I would tell him you are sorry for any dust but you checked before work started and there was no car there. Maybe something along the lines of “I’m sorry, I know how annoying it must be, I remember when you had work done on your property and I had to pick up nails from my garden and put up with the noise”

Exactly this.

Plonthy · 23/11/2020 20:49

@justconcedealready

I would tell him you are sorry for any dust but you checked before work started and there was no car there. Maybe something along the lines of “I’m sorry, I know how annoying it must be, I remember when you had work done on your property and I had to pick up nails from my garden and put up with the noise”

Exactly this.

....and then tell him to fuck off 😁👌
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