To be pissed of with dcs dad

[Survivingastorm]

Dc was rushed to hospital with serve facial swelling and breathing difficulties, exp was informed and while I understand he didn't rushed to the hospital because he was working and lives over and hour away since this happened he hasn't once checked to see how dc was doing. Only time he contacts is if I message him but even then his replies are then in relation to contact.

Aibu to be pissed off with him for not even checking to see how dc was?

Absoloutely within your rights to br pissed off but it's not going to achieve much. Easier to resign yourself into accepting that is who he is.

Speaking as a parent who has watched her child go through four operations under general anaesthetic while other parent stayed away.

@bettycat81 that is infuriating your poor dd and you. Just really gets to me that he likes to tell everyone he is this amazing dad when in reality unless it's related to contact he really isn't bothered at all. I think im feeling more disappointed for dc.

Absolutely you can be pissed off, but I've learnt it's a waste of energy and mental space. One day your child will realise their dad doesn't make the effort, all you can do is offer and support the contact he does choose to have.

But i understand the feeling of disappointment, my ex is the same, does the bare minimum just so he can post on social media and make it look like he's a great dad, when in reality he's a useless twat

That's sad, hope DD is better soon and not too scared

@Flower8 I think that's the point I need to with not wasting mental energy on it all. Just baffles me that he will go so long without even checking to see how dc is, especially after such a scare.

Also pisses me off that he always has his parents looking after her with him there, which I'm glad she is safe, but sometimes annoys me as they aren't in the best health and I do wonder what will happen should something happen to them.. especially his mum.

@Stantons thank you. dc keeps on having reactions, not so much scared apart from the hospital stay but definitely out of sorts when having the reactions . Luckily got an appointment with a paeds doctor coming up.