DD lying

[GymMat]

DD is 11 young for her age. Has adhd and on waiting list for autism test (mild). Her lies are just getting beyond things now. This last couple of months she's has lied to people on a online game saying she has cancer. We had the talk about lies etc. She has now told school that grandad hit her across the legs and its not the 1st time he's done it. I know it couldn't of happened as the day in question grandad was giving her a lift to school I put her into the car and waved them away. She was in the back of the car. Then when they get to school off she goes with her friend happy as anything.
I think its because we wouldn't let her take toys to school (covid rules not allowed)

School has told social. Social did a quick visit on Friday and going to speak to her again on Monday. I'm at a loss what to do really.
Aibu to think she's lying?

Forgot to say about has happened in 3 years for her too.
2 house moves most recent last month.
Loss of a pet.
2 family members died.
2 new baby brothers
Covid and lock downs.

Could just be for attention?

I don't think you can prove her grandad didn't hit her as you weren't there. You put her in the car. You weren't there the whole way.
Obviously her lying about the other thing is disgusting. You need to have a chat and ask why she feels the need to lie, what it is you can help her with.

Once you find out why she does it I think it's easier to go from there.
Could be attention. Do you think you give her enough? She seems to have dealt with a lot at the moment maybe she needs counselling.

Honestly I don't think she's getting enough attention atm and I try to do things with her and she's not interested. She always lies about anything big and small things like
Me : don't hit your brother
Her : i didn't
Me: I literally just watched you
Her : I really didn't.

Bump

My dd has ASD. I remember her starting secondary school. She told people she was American, gave a different name. I recall there was a whole string of fantasy. It fizzled out thank goodness. Took about 6-12 months.
Hopefully it is just a phase.

Does she understand the consequences of her lies? I agree with the PP who said you can't be 100% sure grandad didn't hit her but does she understand what might happen as a consequence if she is lying?

Maybe tell her ss only have so much money. If it's spent on dc who tell lies they won't be able to help dc who are really in trouble.... Maybe explain some dc are loved and well cared for. Not all are lucky. Especially at Xmas and Covid more will be suffering abuse and poverty..

My son did this - lied when he was annoyed with people

Worst one was when he told me a man had approached him and his sister in a restaurant we were in and had asked them to leave to get ice cream. He was SO believable at first until the manager listened to his story snd went off to check the CCTV camera...

The man had asked him if he could let his son play the Xbox game he was playing...

My son was also ASD

The school is 2 min drive away. Dad hasn't ever smacked her before so I highly doubt it happened. I had to wait in for a new fridge delivery. I'm dreading tomorrow if I annoy her in the morning (which is frequent) then what else is she likely to say? I've told ss about her recent behaviour. Maybe she's needing some extra support? I went through a lying phase at her age said my dad wasn't my dad was someone else ect...

DD has admitted to the social person that she lied so all's well on that front. Social has given me some phone numbers for help.

My dd has Autism and tells lies .......I think it's because she struggles with social interaction so says things guaranteed a response to integrate herself into a group. Nothing as dramatic as making up cancer but lies about people being horrible to her etc to get sympathy from a group.

I'm very aware of this and will pull her up on it, quite often she'll phone me and start off with what I know is a lie and I'll say now tell me what the problem is. Because we both know that isn't true. And then she'll tell me what's actually bothering her.......the doing it with friends thing I can't do so much about. Tbh I think it's one of those things they need to learn the hard way. And that will have to be backlash from a group or friend.