To ask if you felt this way when you moved house?

[NewHomeJitters]

We moved recently, a few weeks ago.

I don't know what's wrong with me but all of the excitement of moving has just gone and I feel very anxious and jittery about the whole thing.

I can't seem to relax for long because it doesn't feel like home here yet, I feel nervous about having new neighbours and being somewhere different. I worry things like what if the area isn't as nice etc...

I just feel quite sad and deflated in general.

Hell yes,it’s really natural to have a what have we done wobble

I recently moved and don't feel anxious but am definitely experiencing the post-Christmas blues around the whole experience.

The area I was living in was visually stunning and I intend to retire back there (if not before!) but this move made more sense professionally. So my experience is definitely tinged with regret.

Moving during Covid isn't a great time for settling in - you can't get out and explore the area, meet new people in the same way that you would during 'peace' times.

Does your new home require a lot of work? That could impact on your feelings about the experience. How have you felt about previous moves? I felt equally deflated in the past moving to an area that I came to love over time so I just keep telling myself to give it time and bear in mind that these are strange, strange times we're living in.

Yes! I always feel like that when we move. I see all the things that need doing, feel really alone and vulnerable etc. It took about 6 months to start feeling settled here but after that I really settled in and we have lovely neighbours and I can't imagine moving. Give it time :)

A bit like you Butchy, the area we moved from was absolutely gorgeous, very out of the way but just not practical anymore for our family as the house we were in was very small.

This house is much bigger, needs a bit of work but nothing major but the area... Whilst still okay just seems very 'meh' in comparison if that makes sense? It's much more built up and town - like which I'm just not used to.

I definitely feel some of that 'what have we done!!' PP mentioned.

Yes perfectly normal! I had a wobble the first few nights and thought "what have we done!" But now I love it here and its been 3+ years!

@NewHomeJitters I feel the same! We have had the house since end of Oct and have been renovating (nearly done), and I keep thinking I’m glad I’m not there yet
I’m feeling extremely anxious now that the move is getting closer, and I’m really worried I will hate it.
Before we purchased the property I loved what I had seen of the area....Also feels like it’s just me feeling this way (dh and kids seem super elated) so i don’t want to be the miserable one and have kept my mouth shut...but I can’t shake the feelings of ‘what if the neighbours are awful’, ‘what if I hate the area’, ‘what If the house isn’t right for us’...and so on.
On the first visits I’d feel the excitement, but the recent visits to check progress, I’ve actually felt anxious....I hope this will go away as I feel like it won’t ever feel homely....

Yes completely. You move into a house but it still feels like a stranger's house. I had a 3 month old baby when we moved in here, our second. I was very jumpy but it does go. Definitely easier now we've done the place up, it hadn't been decorated since the 90s so that didn't help. As for neighbours we hated ours, then they moved and our new ones just as bad but other neighbours are great. Hope you settle in soon.

Yes, just over 5 years ago we moved from a 3 bedroom ex council house (which we had bought from the council, mortgage all paid off by the time we sold up) to a lovely 4 bed 3 bath detached house with detached garage and I had the jitters about it. Still have little panics sometime wondering if we did the right think 😕

At least it's not just me!

It doesn't really help that DH is working nights at the moment so I'm here alone in the evenings.

Before I'd love to curl up on the sofa and watch a boxset by myself with the dog! But now everything just seems wrong...? Like out of place and I can't seem to just chill out. Everything is new too, furniture wise so I think that's adding to it as well. The house is new and we don't even have much of our old stuff in it either. All feels so alien.

It's putting me on a real downer. I'm not even looking forward to Christmas which I usually always do, decorating the house etc... can't bring myself to even think about a tree or anything.

I think its normal to have wobbles. Moving house is stressful. Home is normally a safe haven but in your case it doesn't feel so safe anymore.

Think about all the reasons you moved from your old place and what made you go for your new place. Do you have all the things you like up like pictures of family? What would normally do to treat yourself? Have some nice nights where you run a bath, favourite music or call a friend or something.

Normally you end up have family and friends over the celebrate and Christan the house. Perhaps that is missing?

Or It could be a case that your normal stress level is house after what has been an awful year and this is your tipping point. Have you suffered anxiety before? Maybe consider seeing your gp?

Buyers remorse is definitely a thing. So many people on MNet and in RL feel like this, I did too.
Hopefully you settle into your new home soon OP.

Yes I absolutely bawled when I moved into the house I'm in now. My old house was gorgeous. The old owners of this one didn't even take the food out of the cupboard when they left so you can imagine how clean it wasn't. I just sat on the stairs and sobbed until my husband put the oven on and nearly set the kitchen on fire with the faulty oven that they swore was in good working order. They were lying shysters and if they ever show their faces here again they'll be getting both barrels.

It passes but I feel like that whenever we get new neighbours. Are they going to be nice, are they quiet, will they cause us hassles.