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AIBU to think this is not a good idea for an anti-bullying activity?

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Bobkitten · 20/11/2020 19:29

DS age 10 has just told me that a boy in his class has for the past week or so been targeting him with mean comments in front of the other pupils, e.g. saying he watches Paw Patrol/uses some ‘babyish’ app (he doesn’t, not that it matters) and if DS ignores him, calls out things like “There you go, he’s not denying it!”
He’s also sneakily kicking the back of DS’ chair and ignoring him when told to stop.
What hurts DS in particular is that this boy used to be a good friend.
I’s genuinely be surprised if DS has done something to spark this off - I know all mothers will say this, but he’s genuinely a good egg.
According to DS, what started it off was an anti-bullying activity. How ironic. 😒
The children had to draw straws to be certain characters in a small play. DS was landed with what everyone was calling the ‘cringiest’ role, i.e. that of the bullied child - which immediately suggests the whole point of the play was going right over their heads.

Since the play was performed, some of DS’ classmates made a few silly comments which DS took good-naturedly and they’ve since stopped - apart from this one boy who clearly enjoyed seeing my usually confident and happy DS in the position of a bullied child.
I’ve armed DS with some suggestions of what he can do next and will pick this up with the school if it carries on. Just wondering if I an right to think it’s a bad idea to get 10 year olds - not always known for their maturity and reasonable behaviour - to role play bullying behaviour in an attempt to demonstrate that it’s wrong?

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JuliaSevern · 21/11/2020 11:37

I think its hard to say without seeing the play and how it was presented. The boy just sounds as if he's a bit vindictive. Perhaps he was aiming it at other kids before and just has a nasty side and likes to try and lord it over other kids.
Maybe have a word with the teacher and say you don't want to make it worse for your son by him being seen as a "grass" but could s/he keep an eye and see if s/he can catch him in the act so it looks like s/he just noticed the bullying herself/himself rather than your son telling

FortunesFave · 21/11/2020 11:40

I think you should already have picked it up with the school tbh.

AhoyMeFarties · 21/11/2020 11:41

Speak to the teacher. I think role play is fine generally.

cameocat · 21/11/2020 11:43

Speak to the teacher now not wait. Discuss in a measured way and the teacher can be alert and jump on it when it happens.

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